i have been in a relationship for a year and living together for 6 mnths, it is my first lesbian relationship and i'm happier than i've ever been, my daughter gets on brilliant with her, she is 7, i don't want to tell her now just want some ideas on when and how
2006-11-02 01:44:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As you are living together, she knows it somehow anyway, children are very observant. Just tell her that you like your other half very much, (but off course her the most) Tell her also that your partner loves her.Try to behave naturally. And tell her that there are some stupid people at school who might make stupid remarks. Tell her that she is the most important person for you. Believe me it will be alright.
PS; Good for you!!!!!!
2006-11-02 05:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Starlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 7 is a little too young for her to understand what a lesbian relationship is. But to make the path easier at a later stage (I would say about 9) let her see that you 2 are part of each others lives & let her see the stability of that, when the time comes for you to sit down and explain things in a little more detail she will understand the importance of stability, Love & kindness & what both have you have given her, this is all important for any child whatever relationship their parents have...I wish you all the best & I am so glad your so happy, this will undoubtedly reflect for the good on your little girl.
2006-11-02 01:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That's not easy!! But you have to be honest with her. Tell your daughter mommy has a special girlfriend who is an important part of her life. Don't you explain anything else by the moment, she's is too baby to understand your sexual life and you may confuse her, when she's a little bit grown, you can't explain something more. In this moment, just try your daughter gets used to the presence of your girlfriend in your life. Good luck!
2006-11-02 01:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by *Atenea* 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation to you, my first lesbian relationship with a son who's 7. As I see it he has accepted my partner as part of the family and as for the truth of our actual relationship I don't think he needs to know the details. If he asks outright of course I'll be honest with him, but if he's happy and I'm happy with the situation (which we are!) then I don't see any reason to rock the boat. He sees his Mum in a happy, stress-free, relaxed relationship, the gender is irrelevant.
2006-11-04 07:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by flossy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no idea how much I relate to you!!! I am in the same position that you are. First lesbian relationship, euphorically happy, and two kids who I have not told. You should send me a message so we can talk off list! I bet we'd have a lot in common.
2006-11-02 04:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your daughter. Is she mature for her age and knows a lot and whats going on around her. You cant explain everything to her right now. But, you can let her know that she is a big part of your life and she makes you happy. And ask her is she understands that. And if she curious she will ask you questions. They always do
2006-11-02 02:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When your ready to tell her will be the right time, sounds to me like your a very responsable parent.
When you decide to tell her just let her know that you love the new person in your life, but still love her and that nothing needs or will change
Best of luck when the time comes
2006-11-02 01:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her before someone at school says something......that you are just two people that love each other. Kids at this age accept it better than you think....they have not yet been affected by the world and it's opinions. I told mine when he was eight. Good luck
2006-11-05 20:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by ??? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them be part of your life. You wouldn't sit down and say "This is my newboyfriend and we love each other" would you? No, you'd just allow it to go with the flow. She'll get used to seeing you together and when the time comes that she starts asking questions, because she loves you both, it will seem natural to her. She won't kow any other way.
Mum to 4.
2006-11-02 02:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have two daughters, I told them as soon as they asked me why I was'nt with their dad. I dont believe in lying to children. They have known for about 2 years... and were very accepting of me and my ex girlfriend , Just tell her. no need to go into great detail...
2006-11-04 00:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋