i am going to be 28 and he is 26. he wants one before we turns 30.
2006-11-02 01:34:55 · 28 answers · asked by mmh 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think you should do both. i know it sounds impossible but my friend went to school during her pregnancy, and she was a success.or if thats to risky for you then just have the baby, you can always go back to school. o and since he wants the baby so much then make sure he baby sits while you are in school
2006-11-02 01:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go back to school. You would not be in the right state of mind for a baby and you may resent the child for holding you back. People are having babies over 30 so I guess you should wait. i think maybe your man thinks once you have been to school you will then put it off for a career and then you will be 40 and still no baby. You both need to talk about this.
2006-11-02 09:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by sweetiesweetydarling 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he having this baby? Will he be carrying and giving birth to it? Will he be putting his life on hold, staying at home to look after baby? Or is he worried that you are getting a little independence for yourself, making your own decisions and doing something to better yourself and worried that you may become more empowered through education and leave him? I've known many in this position and the motivation is always him wanting to control his partner and keep tabs on her.
Being a mum is a wonderful, but hard job and you will be a far better mummy with an education behind you so you can still have a life and be a good role model for your child. You are not saying never to having children, just not yet. Go get an education, be who you want to be and you will be a much better mother for it.
2006-11-02 09:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to settle down to a life of being a mother, I would suggest you go to school and complete your education. Once a baby arrives, trying to do both is, at best, difficult. You will more than likely put the idea of school aside. Perhaps you would rethink going to school if you did decide to have a baby now, but it would be years down the line, and economically, could you afford it? A lot of thought must go into this decision. It is crucial that you rethink your decision of having a family now. Do yourself a big favor, go for the education. You can always have children, you are young enough to wait a few more years. If your man loves and respects you, he will stand by and let you pursue your dream.
2006-11-02 09:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to school, once you have a child you will not have so much free time on your hands. You can do both, many women do but its not easy and it can be very stressful. You BF should respect your wishes and you have plenty of time to have a child. Don't rush this important decision in your life and really think about what YOU want not what everyone here tells you, or even what your bf thinks. You will be the one carrying the baby and caring for the baby YOU need to make sure its what you want!!
2006-11-02 09:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He has four years to go before he turns 30, guess he can wait while you go to school. How come i get a feeling he feels a bit insecure, think he wants the baby before you're learned. Just a thought
2006-11-02 09:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sammy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How long does your school take? If you have one or two years of school and complete the course there are good chances for you to find a job and the added income to the family is useful for the baby which both of you are planning for. Try to talk to him and if he agress, it is a better idea than going for a baby right now. A practically good suggestion. Good Luck
2006-11-02 09:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by goodcitizenz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What is the point in going back to school you are 28 years old.
Forget it, you are not going to improve your life. Have a kid and settle down.
School is for kids.
Besides you obviously werent that good at school if you need to go back at 28 yrs of age!!!!!
2006-11-03 07:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless your man is prepared to stay at home, and at the same time support you and the new baby, then by all means have one, but if not you go for it an go back to school, your not a baby making machine.
2006-11-02 09:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by firefly08 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go back to school because if you don't go to school and get a good job then how are you going to support a child and if you go back to school after you have the baby it will be hard to do both take care of the baby and do your work and go to school. and if you don't have a job right now you'll have to get one to support the baby untill you get out of school. I mean you could not go to school and still be able to support a child, but it will be harder if you don't have a desent job. If I were you I would go to school and then worry about kids when you get out me and my boyfriend already decided we were going to wait till we were out of collage to have kids.Good Luck!
2006-11-02 09:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard but you can do both if you both work together. A baby is something really nice to share with the one you love. You guys just need to talk it over and come up with what is best for the both of you. Good luck on what ever you guys decide to do.
2006-11-02 09:39:21 · answer #11 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋