When i'm sad , im usually MAd at my grandma, who died when i little.She always prefered my siblings, it was very obvious,they would get double gift,me just one.So, when i'm sad, i get very MAD at her, even though she's dead.How can i overcome this ?
2006-11-02 01:25:04 · 11 answers · asked by dersexy 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You may need to go to therapy, because i think there is some deeper underlying issues. I think you will need to talk your way through this one. Alot of people have the same issues, so most likely a therapist will have the knowledge to help you with it. It could be something that wasnt bad. My grandma gave me and my siblings the less expensive gifts because we were more appreciative than the other grandkids were.
2006-11-02 01:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, my grandma has been dead for like 5 years, and there are times when I am thinking and there are things that I think of that she said were mean to me. And I sort of get a lil mad about it. Then I remember that she is no longer here on the Earth, and that times go on. she isnt here anymore to get mad at. Why are we mad at someone who isnt here anymore? Perhaps we never got a chance to forgive them. Next time youre mad at your grandma, find it somehow (this may sound weird) in your heart to forgive her. Pretend that she's there or something. Who knows. But don't be mad at something that happened so long ago. It's over and she really can't say she's sorry now.
2006-11-02 01:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she gave you one gift because she didn't want your siblings to know she loved you more. Or maybe she thought you were a miserable little brat that would be mad at her even after she is dead. Either way, get over it. Your grandma is in heaven and the last thing she needs is your greed and anger holding her down.
2006-11-02 01:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Piranha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't overcome it, and it really is very normal to feel mad at someone who is dead. You need to move on, but that comes with time only.
2006-11-02 01:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Huey from Ohio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a professional about this.
You seem to have problems with inferiority based on the actions of your deceased grandmother.
You don't know why she did what she did, but it isn't really important.
Your self importance and well being are a product of your mind.
You can ignore and "get over" her actions or you dwell on them.
That said, I sometimes dwell on past actions and situations.
It is self defeating and not worthy of your time or emotion.
2006-11-02 01:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by timc_fla 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well since she has died it doesn't seem right to stay mad since it is only an emotion and it's acting like she still has an hold on you even in death so why not just let it go and forgive her and forgive yourself for getting mad at her
2006-11-02 01:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by barbara b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have issues that need to be dealt with professionally. Maybe, you are mad because she left you at such an early age and you really didn't get the chance to know her or for her to get to know you. This seems to be eating at you, feed it and get on with your life.
2006-11-02 01:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by nuttin'fancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. You just need more time. Anger is one of the 7 stages of grief. This is normal. I was very angry at my father for a long time after he died. It will pass with time babe.
2006-11-02 01:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by AmberKortni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant - excpet by urself. Only if u forgive her can you overcome ur madness at her. If ur still mad years later then its probably ok because she must have done something terribly wrong
2006-11-02 01:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by LUVVYA SHEKSY! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get over your grudge against your grandmother is to haul off and forgive her.
2006-11-02 01:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by Kidd! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋