Thanks a lot dear friends for yr replies. I rqst for more improved replies. I hv 9 yr kid. My wife of 18 yrs,
& 20 yrs younger than me, insisting for divorce. I live in o/seas since 30 yrs. I am Indian n oftenly visit India on biz.
Though Im 60 yrs, hily fitness conscious. can easily accept divorce but bcz of kid, who is born/brought up out of India, who wants both parents, has forced me to rethink abt divorce. My wife wants again a single life and has many online friends, she uses headphones/webcam
regularly. The country where I live is a small country, one can reach from one city to another very easy. My wife knows many yongmen locally & intly thru yahoo, myspace,
many more. She wants to start a new life but hv no intention to remarry. She loves her kid but her personal life is more import, hence wants to start new life and wants
divorce but I am avoiding keeping in view kid's welfare. She says I can even take kid to India. Life here is better India is not my preference
2006-11-02 01:22:50 · 6 answers · asked by La Kho Kho 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OH NO PROBLEM YOU MUST CARE FOR YOUR CHILD AND SEE BRIGHT FUTURE FOR THE NEXT COMING DAYS.
2006-11-02 01:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is unfortunate, and my heart goes out to you. People over a course of time do in fact change, and there is nothing we can do about it. We can only change our attitude toward people. You sound like an emotionally mature man, and I'm sure very handsome, likeable, etc. Certainly you will go through a mourning period. You will get through this. Believe me.
My concern is of your nine year old child. Your wife seems to be very self-centered and could care less what becomes of your child. It seems to me, that your child should be both of your priority. If you want to stay here, stay here; but I believe your child would be better off with you for now.
Please rise to the occassion and do the best thing for your child; not you or your wife. It is the children that suffer in these cases; the adults can take care of themselves.
Subjecting your child to live under the same "unhappy" roof with you and your wife is not doing him/her any favors. Children tend to blame themselves for the unhappiness in a marriage. Don't do this to your child.
I hope this helps.
2006-11-02 09:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by Charlotte C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad I am sorry. First you have to make plans for your child. It is selfish of her to put her single life before your child. SO you should take care of your child because there is the possibility of her getting a new man and neglecting your child. God Bless i hope it works out!
2006-11-02 09:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have answered your 1St Q? in first place, I still say you really have no say, unless she grow out of this phase, it is possible that it will pass but you never know.
Try seeing a marriage councillor, in the mean time pray for some thing good.
2006-11-02 18:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the right thing for your child. your child is the most important thing in your life and should be put first. seems like your wife wants to just have fun and not be a mother.
2006-11-02 09:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should divorce her and raise your kid she is 20 yrs younger than you and wants a new life let her go and thank God she is getting out of your life
Good luck
2006-11-02 09:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋