Would you be dissapointed if your adult child told you they were Gay??

Answer 1

I have two boys and I think it would crush me. Although the adjustment would be hard, if you want your child to be in your life, you would have to accept it. From what I read, it's nothing one person can control.

Answer 2

It's your child.
Aside from the disappointment you may feel; you have to understand that your child is indeed an adult and they've found something that makes them happy.

When I told my parents, they were shocked at first, my mother was a little disappointed becuase I'm the only girl out of 4 brothers and well ya know, but once the family saw how happy I was, they understood. I know that my family would rather see me happy with a woman, than in an unhappy relationship with a man...

Be dissapointed if you may, but your child does also need your support... it is their life, and everyone is entitled to love whomever they please...

Answer 3

Not really. I have a different perspective though, because I have seven children. I would imagine it might be different if this adult child were an only child and did not plan to have children, because then there would be no grandchildren. However... plenty of gay/lesbian couples DO have children now... so that might buffer the blow a bit for those "only child" folks prepping to make that announcement.

I think I care more about my children being happy, healthy, successful in whatever they choose, and loved by a person who treats them with respect. I don't really care so much about their private moments together. I'm not for open displays of affection between lovers... so I don't think my children would be blatant about their sexuality in front of me no matter WHO their partner was... so it's all good :)

Answer 4

Yes, I'd be more than disappointed. No granchildren for me, is what that would say. I love my son beyond imagination, so what my feelings are now, is that I would have to get over it, and continue to be his Mom and friend, but I would probably blame myself in some ways, at first.
My son is only nine right now, and doesn't seem inclined to have any homosexual feelings, as my brother did, as my brother is gay. I have been told by many people, homosexual friend's of mine that I have a knack for being able to identify when someone is gay. However, if my son was gay, if I love him, I'd have to support him, and I love him.

Answer 5

I speak as a lesbian mother. In some ways yes. Primarily for the fact that they will have to endure a lot from society and from family on both sides. My family is VERY conservative and needless to say I am not out myself! For my child to tell me he/she is gay would be hard to handle because I know what I've personally dealt with about not being out.

Answer 6

Absolutely not no, what does it matter whether they are gay or straight, their your child and why would you be disappointed that you brought them up to be what they want to be, I would be proud they had the guts to tell me and not hide if like it was something disgusting or to be ashamed of, my nephew told us recently that he was gay, like we had no idea, I think he expected us to react in shock and be disgusted and disappointed with him, we love him so what does it matter, believe it or not his father seems to think its a phase hes going through and will grow out of it and is more worried what the neighbours will say, pity he hasn't taken more of an interest in his son as if he had he would have realised a long time ago his son was gay, as long as people are allowed to be what they want to be then what does it matter.

Answer 7

I think gay people express themselves much better and that is why they tend to be leaders in the fields of fashion, cooking, many forms of entertainment and stage, hair dressing etc. Their relationships seem to be much more honest because (all the gay people I have met) express their feelings. They all have good friends too. So if any of my 2 boys were gay it wouldn't bother me in the slightest as also in todays age they certainly wouldn't be alone - or lonely.

Answer 8

A little, but at the same time i wouldn't want to lose his/her friendship trust and love over his/her sexual orientation. After all there is nothing i can do about it anyway right. The true question is will i distances my child and throw away a life time of love for something i couldn't change if i wanted too. The answer is NO.

Answer 9

My daughter got married but her husband left her 2 days before my grandson was born.
Several years and many boyfriends later, and years of unhappiness and loneliness,she told me that she was in love with another girl.
It was the happiest day for me because my baby was happy.
Strangest thing was that at no time did it worry me at all.
I have never given it a second thought.

Answer 10

Well, if he/she is my child, then I can and have to only love him/her and accept him/her the way he/she is. It is obvious that our children will never be like us, the exact copies, so (I don't have children yet) I am already prepared now. This is happening, I have many homosexual friends and I take it as natural as it is, so that I will not be one day negatively surprised by my child. Because society and religion are against them, this does not mean I have to hate them as well.

Answer 11

no i wouldnt be dissapointed, id be happy that they were confident enought in my love for them to tell me. thats one of the hardest things to do as a child, coming out to your parents.