do you find it right when you see parents spanking their kids?

Question

i dont think i could ever do that to my kids

Answer 1

If you never have to encounter the time when your child is in need of a spanking, then your kids will probably walk all over you. I don't mean whack the crap out of them, or abuse or hurt them in any way. It is a parental defense to use at the ultimate time you need to instill wrong doing in your child's mind.
I had to spank my daughter once, on the butt of course, for deliberately going out front between the sidewalk and curb of a busy road after we moved to our new apartment. She was told to never go out front, and to play only in the back yard. I indeed spanked her for that, and I think that was the only time I had to. She remembers it to this day (she is now 21). One thing though, immediately after I spanked her, I knelt down, looked her in the eyes, and said "I love you....but do you know why I spanked you"? I explained how dangerous it was, and I couldn't live without her if anything happened ... she could get hit by a car, or get stolen by a stranger. She understood and never went out front ever again!
When I see children acting up in the store, and parents just spanking them for crying or whining, that is wrong, very wrong. I think a spanking is a very useful tool for a parent, but not to abuse it, and hopefully if you never need to spank your child, then you are truly blessed.

Answer 2

I think spanking kids should have a limit since some kids do need a spanking. Down here in Australia you see some screwed up kids that have never learnt proper discipline and they really do need a spanking. I'm not ssaying it's a good thing but sometimes it is the only thing that can screw someones head back on the right way.

Answer 3

First of all, there is a huge difference between abuse and spanking.
I was a very rebellious/belligerent child from the get-go. Putting me in my room didn't work; I would just defy them and walk right back out. Because of this, everyone spanked me... my grandfather said that he spanked me more than all his children and grandchildren put together. I believe if they had not spanked me, I would have ended up in prison or worse. As it is, I have had zero infractions of the law in my life (not even a speeding ticket). But, they also gave me lots and lots of positive reinforcement (that is just as important). I love them with all my heart and I'm so glad they wailed on my bottom... I really needed it.
Those people who give those rubbishy arguments against spanking don't have a clue. I have a super high self-esteem and spanking didn't teach me to hit... I got spanked for hitting people. Look at how the children are ending up these days. Just how many school shootings, violence, rebellion, etc. have we had from children who were not spanked? As people quit spanking more and more, these things will continually go up more and more. Just look at the statistics from back in the days when people spanked. Spare the rod...

Answer 4

I find it wrong to let kids do what they want. Discipline helps to guide on the right path. You should probably ask some inner-city elementary school teachers this question to get a better idea of the needs of society's children. I also see a difference between discipline and child abuse.

I think its much more effective to spank a child after some time has passed when everyone is cooled down. You could send him to his room for an hour to think about it then give the spanking. This way the child has time to think about what he has done and time to regret it. The father also has time to cool down so that he won't lose control. His son would also learn that his father means business, even after time has passed...not just in the rage of the moment. I think the child would respect him more this way and would be more likely to think twice next time.

Answer 5

I don't think it is right to smack kids period

I don't want my child to think that it is ok to be hit by someone they love.

HOwever i do understand that parents can get worn out and frustrated and occasionally smack a child especially when the child has done something dangerous like run out in to a road. An occasional slap doesn't make you a bad parent - maybe you just need to think about other methods to discipline your child.

You don't need to smack a child to give an effective punishment. My mum was a child minder for twenty years - she never smacked but the children had a proper discipline program and were sanctioned when they misbehaved but more importantly praised lots when they did things right.

The thing i hate above everything is when two little kids are playing and one of them hits the other then an adult hits the child saying see how you like it.
The child learns not that hitting is wrong but that most force wins. Children that were hit by their parents were always the kids most likely to hit other kids, at least from what i saw.

Actually if you did a survey of behaviour and punishment method it wouldn't show that spanked children are better behaved than non spanked children but that parents with a consistent and loving discipline regime had the best behaved children.

Answer 6

What I don't find right is parents who let their kids run amock. I spanked my kids when necessary but I didn't have to do it very often because they knew I would if they misbehaved. Nowadays kids know there's no consequences for their actions and we all can see where it's led. My kids are now grown and they all say they respected me as their father and getting whacked once in a while taught them, not damaged them. Of course I'm not talking about abuse here either.

Answer 7

I believe in spanking, just not in public. There's a difference between flogging and a firm hand.

If you discipline your children before you leave the house you should have to worry about how they behave.

What I don't like is the way some people talk to their children. I've seen mothers use language on their kids I wouldn't use in a bar fight.

Answer 8

If little johnny run out in front of a car coming within a few feet of being killed and mommie takes litttle johnny and tell him that he must never do that he scared mommie to death and gives him a kiss on the forehead little johnny has not learned anything but if she spanked his a*s he'll think twice b4 he does again. No, a spanking now and then in my opinion is not going to turn little johnny into a mass murderer

Answer 9

Do you HAVE kids? Time outs and so on are wonderful, but when you are trying to get things done on schedule, a time out can be more punishing to YOU than to the misbehaving child. And children figure this out at a very early age. They will take all the time outs you care to assign, knowing that it is hurting YOU worse than it hurts them.

Of course, people shouldn't actually BEAT kids. And they shouldn't strike a child in anger or belittle/humiliate the child. But I don't have a problem with a few swats to the rear now and then.

Answer 10

What else are we suppose to do? Indulge them or let them scream? It is more rude to let the child scream, then giving them a swat on the but or hand. I have a two year old, and he tries to get into everything, how else is he going to learn NO?

I'm not talking about beating a child, but a swat here or there to keep them in line when they are acting up is fine. There is a difference between SPANKING and BEATING.

I will refrain from using on my child what my parents used on me. A thick leather belt or a switch from the willow tree hurt worse than a hand.