I always keep in touch with her. I ring her, go round to her house and text her to see how she is. I never hear from her otherwise. All effort comes from me. Shall I just throw in the towel now?
2006-11-02 00:59:51 · 41 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unless your friend is going through a really bad time at the moment it sounds like she is not a very good friend.
The crux of the matter is
a) do you treat anyone you consider a friend like this? If you don't why tolorate it from someone else.
b) IF you stopped calling you wouldn't have a friendship.
Spend the time you spend on her making some proper friends who will make an effort, call you back and show that they value you in their lives.
2006-11-02 01:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bebe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt throw in the towel without first expressing the fact that you feel you are the only one making the effort in the friendship and thay you'd appreciate if she'd start acting like a mate.
THEN stop making an effort - a real friend will take heed of what you've said and start trying harder.
It may be - she genuinely is just very laid back and doesnt realise how she comes across - at least give her a chance! xx
2006-11-02 02:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to 'throw in the towel', just lay off a bit. She may actually be shy and absolutely chuffed when you get in touch. If this is the case she will probably either make more effort or mention contact has become more infrequent...
Or she may be very busy or pre-occupied, either way you'll do the right thing.....
2006-11-02 01:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by PvteFrazer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a couple of friends like that. Sometimes their behaviour really annoyed me but we still had fun when we saw each other. Some people are just like that and you may need to accept that they will probably never change. If you value your friendship with them and you have a good time when you see each other then you might need to accept this fact. On the plus side you will be in control of the relationship and you can decide just how much you are prepared to give.
2006-11-02 01:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm usually the one who doesnt keep in touch with my friends. in fact I dont see them or speak to some of them for months or even years on end (many of my mates live overseas), but this doesnt make them any less of a friend - I have told people I am shite at keeping in touch because I am very busy getting on with my life - but they still mean the world to me - and when we DO get together, we always have the best time!
Just don't expect everyone to be as thoughtful as you - and don't assume them not calling you etc doesn't mean you don't have a special place in their heart!
2006-11-02 01:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having to ask that question in the first place should give you an idea!
Friendship like anything is all about balance. There should be give and take on both sides. Its not fair if you do all the work to keep the friendship going!
Sorry hun, doesn't sound like she will be in the running for the best mate of the year award!
2006-11-02 01:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she worth the effort? Go a week or two without contacting her and see how it feels. Maybe you're not giving her enough time to contact you first. After some time goes by call her and see if the conversation is interesting and friendly or just small talk. If it's just small talk - move on.
2006-11-02 01:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a friend.
I've had friend like that before, and eventually decided to let go, because I felt that if I'm putting in all this time and effort, it might as well pay off. It's a crap feeling chasing around people like that, and why should your friends make you feel bad? Isn't that against the whole point of 'friends'?
2006-11-04 00:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by jollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has no credits in her mobile...she may be busy, but you seem to be doing all the running, so just stall on the messages, calls and visits for now, see if she can make an effort, friends are few and far between, dont ditch her, you may need her one day and yes, she will be there, but dont waste time calling when she's not returning the favour...just wait and see what happens
2006-11-02 02:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i used to do that. u meet some people who will use u, and extract every possible thing from u when they can.
i've stopped doing that and have found real friends since.
friendship is great but not when its all effort from ur side and none from the other.
move on. she doesnt deserve a friend like u. and i am sure there r real friends waiting out there for u.
2006-11-02 01:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋