... and keep f.cking up and upsetting people?
Something happened the other night on here that really took me by surprise (and I know it shouldn't have, I can see NOW that the signals were there, but I'm really thick and they went right over my head), and I answered something quite hastily and now I'm not sure if I did the right thing or if I've upset anyone.
I don't know why I didn't cotton on sooner, I mean I'm not naive any more (I know I used to be), and in real life I have no problem reading signals - if I'm in the same room with a guy I never miss a hint, but on here it's different, and I'm not so good at reading between the lines. Maybe I'm just more physical, and I know more about body-language.
I haven't looked at anyone's 360 pages because it never occurred to me and I didn't set one up (because I'm such a chatterbox I knew I'd end up putting much more personal stuff on there than I intended to), and I realise now I probably missed a lot, and I feel like I made a total..
2006-11-02 00:47:18 · 12 answers · asked by JBoy Wonder 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
a*se of myself in front of everyone.
I got so upset I couldn't sleep that night, and I rang my friend M and he came over yesterday and read all my questions, and said I'm acting one minute like a self-obsessed needy brat, and the next like a pr**ktease, so any trouble I get in is my own fault, and it's about time I learnt to sort out these messes for myself, and I know he's right, I can see that, and maybe I should just delete all my questions and start again.
I feel like I was at a party, and having a great time dancing and flirting with loads of guys, but not wanting especially to go home with anyone, and then out of the blue (or so it seemed at the time) someone grabbed my arm and tried to drag me off somewhere and I panicked a bit and said no, even though if I'd been more aware in the first place I wouldn't have been surprised and I might have said yes.
And now it's like the music got turned off and everyone else went home, and I don't know what to do.
2006-11-02 00:53:19 · update #1
I'm really sorry to anyone who can't make head or tail of this question, just ignore it if you want. And I'm also sorry to anyone who's been offended by some of the inappropriate stuff I've posted in my questions. I'll try and learn from my mistakes, and I see now that maybe the 360 pages are the place for that kind of talk, I think, but I don't really know how they work and I'm a bit nervous.
I just noticed I made a typo in the main question - sort of says it all, doesn't it?
Why am I so stupid? And what can I do about it?
2006-11-02 00:56:28 · update #2
Thank you. I needed a hug, and this is probably the closest I'll get.
Sorry for boring on about myself as usual.
2006-11-02 09:54:29 · update #3
it is easy for misunderstandings to happen even when you are both in the same room. trying to make connections through the internet is so difficult...no chance to read body language or facial expressions and no chance to hear the tone of the person's voice. don't worry about it. if someone online misunderstood something you typed and is now hurt and upset, that's just life.
i think you are a great guy and i very much enjoy the little bit that we have been able to interact with each other here. hugs & kisses.
2006-11-02 01:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish i could answer that but since i live in the same boat as you and constantly say the wrong things i would hate to give you advice that was totally off base. Honesty is the best policy they say. It is also the best way to make enemies of friends. All i can say is think before you speak. If your anything like me though that is easier said than done. Good luck and Peace to you.
2006-11-02 01:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Inexperience and self absorption. The curse of the young. Don't worry, it'll go away, its simply a temporary state of being.
In the mean time, talk less, listen more. And when you do talk, don't talk about yourself. Always use the spell check.
Good luck to you, it'll be ok.
2006-11-02 01:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about it, and move on. If you feel you made mistakes, it was good of you to come forward and to clear the air. Don't worry about it. Things seems to be smoothing out.
2006-11-02 01:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by SB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll give you the advice my Grandmother gave me.
Think before you speak, think long and hard, never with haste, never with anger and most of all when speaking consider others feelings.
You can use this in any life situation.
Hope this helps.
2006-11-02 01:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you definately are being way to hard on yourself. quit worrying about upsetting someone. you didnt, and if you did too bad. we all make mistakes. anybody that ask for perfection out of me is seriously mistaken. so if you are talking to who i think you are, than there is no anger, dissapointment, or anything negative here.
2006-11-02 08:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by shyboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just follow the community guidelines when in doubt
the basic is still try to help by giving your views of the matter
2006-11-02 01:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by kimht 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if you were perfect like Jesus, people will still find fault with you, no mistake is wrong if you learn a lesson
2006-11-02 00:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok, take a deep breath, hold............., exhale. it's allright. we all make mistakes, water under the bridge. just treat people the way you want to be treated and you'll do fine. peace...............ps yahoo 360 is soooo damn cool. you'll love it!
2006-11-02 03:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u get everything wrong then your prob wrong about this too right?
2006-11-02 07:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋