ladys and gents some advice please?

Question

me and my partner of 3years are trying for our first baby i would like to tell my mum but affraid to tell her we are close but dont know i cant tell her the reason i want to tell her is cause i dont have anyone to talk to about geting advice and stuff as my mum has already been through the experience and would like to talk to her about it how do i go about doing this my partner thinks i should wait til i am pregnant first then tell her what u think?

just for the record i am 23 and he is 30 yrs old just incase some you guys think am too young or something.

Answer 1

When my husband and I were trying to get pregnant, I did not tell my Mom. I only told her after we became pregnant. It was already stressful in trying to become pregnant, I didn't need the stressful anticipation of a grandmother asking were we pregnant every month. And good thing, it took us a year to become pregnant- I couldn't have handled that for a year.

Answer 2

In your shoes I would wait, because about 20% of pregnancies terminate in the first three months after conception. [I am assuming that you are the woman, by the way -- your post doesn't say....]

That said, the "how to" is fairly easy and *cough* a lot of fun in the mean time. Sexual intercourse about two weeks after your period starts. Your body (or her body if you are the guy) will generally signal the time when the vaginal discharge changes and becomes very clear and for "runny" for lack of a better word. If you are still having trouble conceiving after around a year of trying, then call an physician and discuss it with him/her.

Then once you have reached the point where most pregnancies succeed, let mum know and everyone can celebrate, and trust me, you'll have all the advice you could ever want.

Answer 3

I told my mum, dad, mother in law and grandparents I was trying...my husband and I liked them knowing so they didn't think it was an accident I guess. I even told my work I would be ttc in a few months just so they are aware... but if you both don't want to tell then .. you might have to wait.. when we fell pregnant in July I didn't want to tell anyone until I was 12 weeks but my husband did want to tell his mum ... we ended up having a m/c and telling them...... now we are ttc again and I want to tell people straight away and I think they would know any way . and it will be nice to talk about it.. but now Glenn doesn't want to so I guess if we are both not comfortable telling people then we shouldn't.... you can always talk to each other.. good luck ..

Answer 4

There's no problem asking your mum If you already took the decision. She'll add the love and care she feels for you to her advise. I don't think your mum gives you negative feelings If she feels you're sure about what you're going to do.
Good luck to you both.

Answer 5

Unless you are real young or there is some other reason your mom would be upset with you for trying to have a baby I dont see why you couldnt tell her. Who knows, she may be extremely happy to have you trying for her grandchild.
good luck.

Answer 6

i think that your mother is the listening ear! tell her that you have been trying no parent does not want to be a grandparent and why dont you ask a doctor about this..3 yrs? way too long

Answer 7

I'd wait until you are pg...because if you tell your mother you're gonna have extra pressure on yourself. Just keep it for the both of you until it's time to share the news.

Answer 8

wait til your pregnant but then again it's your mom you should be able to talk to her whenever not matter what's going on or not going on. Talk to her, I don't think she'll hurt your feelings because you have questions.