(You and your frined are females)
What do you do when you have a friend who is bisexual and you are too. Your friend doesn't know that you are bisexual, but she knows that you know that she's bisexual. You really like/love her, but she doesn't know that. We say I love you lots of times, but just as friends. When You say that (I love you) you really mean it but you're not use if your friend really means it or if she just says it as a friend. What do I do? Do I tell her??? PLEASE HELP ME!!! IT'S URGENT!!!
2006-11-02 00:25:43 · 13 answers · asked by Lover 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You call her up or meet up with her in person and say:
"Hey (insert name here)! I've been meaning to talk to you about something. I know you're openly bisexual and I really respect that about you. I'm bi too, I'm just not as out right now."
Then pause and allow her to respond a bit about you, maybe she'll be shocked, maybe she'll say she knew all along, etc.
Then say:
"Well I just brought it up because I think you are really a wonderful person, and I want to know if you would like to go out sometime... like on a date. How do you feel about Mexican food?"
And wait for her response. If she says yes, reply with "Good, I can't wait! How about Friday night?" and plan the details of the date. If she says no, then say "Hey, I thought it was worth a shot (smile and shrug). Still friends right?" and accept that things might be a little weird for a while, but continue with busienss as ususal.
I know it can seem so hard and so scary when you are in it, but trust me, it really is that easy. I used to be so shy and so scared to make a first move on a girl, and I missed a lot of chances that way. Over time I had to learn that a no was not the end of the world and yes was so worth it.
2006-11-02 07:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend then she will understand. If you love your friend as much as you say you do then you should be honest. She may actually have the same feelings for you as well.
Or you can do what people have done across the world...
Make up an hypothetical story, its your story and your words just act like its someone else just to see how she may respond!!!
This may give you a good look at what she will think if you told her.
I believe that honesty is always best so I would tell her.
2006-11-02 03:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by Some1Special 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..you can either be honest and tell her how you feel..or cintinue just as friends. But be prepared if you choose to take it farther...you may never be able to go back to just freinds if it doesnt work out. You need to decide if the friendship is more important and something you dont want to lose. If you get into a sexual relationship, things will more than likely change between you. There are other factors to think about.
Good Luck !!!!
2006-11-02 00:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she knows that you know she's bi, and you are the one who isn't out, then you need to tell her. Sit down over coffee and say, I want to tell you something that has been on my mind. Then tell her and then tell her that you think you like her more than a friend and you wanted her to know about that.
Do yourself a favor, don't just jump into bed. If this relationship blossoms and then doesn't work out, you are going to lose a friend. Take that into consideration, and talk about it with her.
Open communication is the foundation any good relationship starts on, start yours out right and see what happens.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-02 00:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are bi also and see where it goes from there. She might want to take the friendship to another level with you or she might not. Be honest with her. You don't have to tell her yet that you love her unless you feel the need to open up completely. Just take it one step at a time and see how she reacts.
2006-11-02 00:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by poppywest1223 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sit your friend down and tell her that you're Bi...
Second of all, if you really REALLY have feelings for her, I don't think theres a reason to hide them... if she's your best friend, than she will totally understand either way.
What you have may be something amazing, and there's no reason to pass that up!
2006-11-02 02:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you tell her that you're bi and see where that takes you. You don't have to tell her immediately about your feelings for her, you could wait and see if she shows clear signs of what her feelings for you are first. You can always tell her about your feelings for her later if her feelings remain a mystery to you.
Good luck! :)
2006-11-02 00:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest about your feelings. be careful and weigh the consequences before you get physical, but realize that once you cross that line there's a chance you'll lose the friendship if it doesn't work out
2006-11-02 03:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say it....I love you and then lay a big fat kiss on her, that'll get some attention.
2006-11-02 10:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by JB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take poppy advise tell her that you are bi maybe when she says that she loves you maybe she does mean it tale a risk you will nevr know what happens unless you try you can do it.
2006-11-02 00:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by Brett r 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋