How do gays pick each other out with "gaydar"?

Answer 1

Well there is the secret handshake....and the de-coder ring....

Answer 2

How do straight people pick each other out with "straight-dar"?

If your intention is honest, and not just prejudiced, here's a partial answer: most gay people grow up in intensely or covertly homophobic communities. Their access to other gay people is therefore often limited to what they see in the media or read in books. Thus, certain aspects of a construction of "being gay" can become signs -- and some of these are made explicit and codified in the gay community itself, for example certain symbols (like a labrys) may indicate that the woman wearing them is a lesbian.

However, there is anecdotal evidence and/or folk belief that gay folk can identify others due to an empathic sense -- but this is usually built up from tiny signs. Many of the most obvious (and often most performed) of these signs are also held up to ridicule by straight culture (women who don't shave their legs, men who mince) and are stereotypes rather than real. Most of the signs are subtler, and form a language learnt through experience of oppression and secrecy.

For a better account, try Buffy the Vampire Slayer Season 7, episode 13, The Killer in Me, where Kennedy explains to Willow how she has identified her as a lesbian.

And refrain from using the word "gays". It's ugly.

Answer 3

It's a look of acknowledgement. A knowing nod that takes place. It's not always accurate and some people are more intuned to it. It seems to me the more confident a person is the easier it is to "pick up the signal". lol
It's hard to describe. After feeling so alone and excluded for being different, most people want to be part of the like minded "gay" community. Within that community is a certain feel. For some reason when you are walking around sometimes you can pick up on someone else's community feel.

Answer 4

It's not just gays. I am a straight female, with a lot of gay male friends, and I have a very finely honed gaydar now!

Answer 5

i've got heard human beings call them girly yet on no account gay. besides to respond to the question: Its customarily because of the fact cocktails are frequently so diluted with juices or in spite of which you would be able to slightly style the alcohol in them subsequently they're fairly uncomplicated to drink. They nevertheless get you under the impact of alcohol of direction, yet its the straightforward way out. to no longer be sexist yet women are frequently seen weaker than adult adult males...merely asserting. adult adult males drink sturdy beverages like whiskey on the rocks to instruct they're "difficult" and would take care of a drink that places hair on their chest. adult adult males shouldn't sense intimidated ingesting a cocktail nevertheless, a minimum of they're ingesting alcohol.

Answer 6

Well I know at the gym I look for the hairy eyeball.
A guy will look at you and when you look back he will quickly look away and then he will glance back kind of furtively, as if to check out if you are still looking at him.

Answer 7

They hang around mall washrooms. A couple of times, I have needed to pay a visit there and a fellow at the next urinal kept looking at what I was doing there. If I hadn't shot a dirty look to the one guy and made a fist at the other, they didn't get the message to tend to their own business and leave me alone.

Answer 8

Little pink satellite dishes in their ears.

Answer 9

the same way you pick up other straights with your urrrr.... straight-dar

Answer 10

sorry it's a trade secret. if you don't have it naturally, you'll never understand.