I am currently seperated from her by 7K miles for another 10 months. She still loves me and feels we rushed into our marriage and wishes we could just go back and take our time. She also has feelings for another guy from her past that just re-surfaced. I know she is lonely and thinks getting through this year is too tough and I know that this wouldn't be an issue if we were together. Just last week we were talking about making a baby in May and taking a cruise. Then we got into an arguement this weekend about her going out all night and not calling me to let me know she made it home. That is what got all this started. I admit I have been a little jealous since we have been apart but it's tough being 7K miles apart and having full trust. I know this may have been my downfall and pushed her to the edge a little. This all just happened so fast and I don't know what to do. I love her with all of my heart and want to save our marriage. What can I do? I will do anything, ANYTHING
2006-11-01 23:37:40 · 10 answers · asked by hurting and confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-02 01:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Shane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming your in the military, being that many miles away. First of all you won't be able to save your marriage from so far away. Second, it sounds like she has already made up her mind. Kinda cowardly I might add. She could have waited til you got home or told you before you left. Anyhow the damage is done. I would try and get over her, Don't tell her you'll do ANYTHING, she may take full advantage of that and use you. If she is interested in another guy let him have her, and thank God you didn't have any children, that would have made it 10 times worse. You sound like a nice guy, you'll find someone who will deserve you. Good Luck!
2006-11-01 23:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm sorry you are going trough this but In cases like this.. the only thing I can tell you to do is offer your wife some marriage counseling and hopefully she will accept.. then you saying she has feelings for another man?? If she refused the counseling you should go on.... because If she still married to you, she shouldn't have another relationship separated or not that is cheating because you are still bonded by marriage... If she refused the counseling my advice is to end the relationship.. and move on I know it's sounds hash but believe me If she really wanted this to work she would be really working on the reconciliation not staying away, and even if she does come back..please wait for at least a year before making a baby.Don't forget the kids always pay for the mistakes of the adults.You don't want to bring a baby to this world and then get a divorce.good luck.
2006-11-02 00:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl you loved so much is a spiked brat? Are you sure you really loved her? New love is easy when its all about attraction that's actually called list. But problems are what tests love and lets you know . Doesn't sound like she was to mature either to handle absences. I have a workaholic for a husband and I know I love him and I had an emotional affair after 8 yrs. so even though she may love you You BOTH need to work together for a solution you should work less pay more attention. She didnt get married to be a lone. There are more important things than money. Look for a way to reduce your workload. Unless you want a maid cook all that to your child and lastly a Barbie at home. Sounds like you didnt love and don't her enough to make any sacrifices on your side. If that's the case it can't be one sided let her go.
2016-03-19 02:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always start by asking her out to a nice restaurant. But don't pull that possessive thing, that doesn't go far with a woman, that will push you away even further. You have to both want this. Take her some flowers as well. Good Luck.
2006-11-01 23:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are really serious about saving your marriage then I suggest you try to get to her as fast as you can and make her realise how much this bonded relationship really matters to you. And make her realize that the only reson you are jealous is not because you want her all for yourself but because you care for her and love her. And if you 2 dared discuss a marriage with a baby then it wasn't some kind of never-going-to-happen future plan, those were love dreams caused by extense feelings of love for each other. And so once again I suggest then you travel to where she is at as fast as you can and make her listen to what you have to say about your feelings to her.
2006-11-02 00:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by shibldaz0099 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 00:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
UNLESS she wants to save the marriage, there is nothing you can do. You both have to work on the marriage if it is going to work out, but she has already gotten involved with someone else so I think its over. YOU need to make decisions regarding your life that do not include you because she is moving on with out you. I know it hurts but you shouldn't be playing the fool.
2006-11-01 23:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be in the Military.Chances are she is getting lonely and this guy just happened to be there to listen to her.And she loved the attention she was getting because you are not there to give to her.And it is hard when there is that much distance between the 2 of you.You should try to have a talk with her and get this all cleared up try not to get angry or mad while talking to her stay calm.But also she problay had already made her mind up and there is nothing you can do.Maybe you can have a few freinds try to talk to her.Good luck I hope it works out.
2006-11-01 23:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by jeff402006 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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Honoring Your Spouse
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Reminisce!
Read letters and cards from the past. Look at pictures. Ask yourself, 'What drew me to my partner? What qualities did I most admire? What activities did we share in? What made us laugh?'
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2006-11-02 00:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋