My husbands family lives pretty far away, too far to drive so we are flying there for Thanksgiving. His brother lives in the same state as us but 3 hours away. A plane ticket is going to cost us about $300 each, for him myself and our 1 yr old. I just found out this morning that he wants to buy his brothers ticket and his brothers fiance. We had a huge argument about how he makes these decisions without even consulting me first. How do I make him see that we really shouldnt be buying these tickets for them? Also, we don't make more money than them, we have a child, a mortgage a car payment etc. they have nothing but a car payment. He thinks he should do it because hes the older brother. Why do men always act like there is something to prove?
2006-11-01 22:57:05 · 4 answers · asked by Mommy to One 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you are the one trying to prove something. Relax a little and talk with him and explain it all instead of having a conniption.
2006-11-01 23:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him (sit down,get coffee or a drink)like civilize people and tell him that you love him,and explain to him that ,his immediate familly come first you have a newborn,theres more unexpected expenses in the house that is very noble and grand for him to buy plane tickets for his kin but he has to focus on his wife and child.of course reassure him that hes doing something good not bad but to refocus his action towards his kins for now until you all are in good standing financially.(sometimes us men loose focus of thing right infront of you,i.e. due to outside stress or problems .so we need sometimes an effort from our partner to communicated that to us)communication and how you say it it the key remember the cavemen mentality so be smart and good luck i hope this helps you.bye
2006-11-02 00:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by nivek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not only the men that take their birth family over their own family. My ex wanted to go to Disney and I ended up paying for her mother, two nephew's and niece her brother and his girlfriend for a week. Not one of them gave me any money and I was told by my ex that they would pay us back. But after the trip no money was returned. So my ex passed it off as "Family does for Family". Well, no longer that is why she is the ex-wife!
2006-11-02 02:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried reasoning it out with him? If you were to bring these arguments to me in a non confrontational manner I'd see your point. If you approach him with the same vitriol you have in writing this question I can understand him not telling anything before doing things of this nature.
2006-11-01 23:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋