My boyfriend and I were together for about two years, when he broke up with me because he didnt have time for his other friends anymore. 3 weeks later he was "going out" with this other girl who I had always hated. The whole time they were together he kept telling me he still loved me and that we would end up together. He broke up with her about 5 months ago and we got back together. He seems so happy to have me back, but Im not always happy. I do trust him, but I dont know if I will ever get over all the hurt he caused me that year he was with the other girl. what should I do?
2006-11-01 22:44:34 · 17 answers · asked by lisa42088 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your going to have to let the part go if your wanting this relationship. People make mistakes and don't always make the right decisions. If he is back with you and that is what you want then don't worry about and get on with your life.>
2006-11-01 22:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first question you should ask is :"do I love him"
The second question: "Am I ready to accept him as a packet deal with all his good and bad characters?"
Now come the last and the most important question :"Do I trust him?" (I know you said " I do trust him" - is it true?).
If all answers are "yes" then don't think of the history and concentrate on the present and also on the ways how to make your relationship more and more mature. Good luck! remember life is not a rose garden, make it a rose garden by putting your love and care and joy to all you are doing.
2006-11-02 07:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by The Kabbalist man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he met this other girl liked her and didn't want to hurt you but telling you he didn't have time for his friends was an excuse to wander somewhere else. He came back and I'm guessing he's glad to have you back. If you're going to make this work you have to get over it and move on. Trust is very hard to regain but you have to put it into perspective and build your relationship from here. Tell him how you feel and that you want to work on it. and then work together.
2006-11-02 06:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you feel rejected at first and now he's back,its on your advantage that you make most of the suitutaion but not too much.if he went out with the gal that you mostly hated that straight away is a sign that he wanted to make you jealous.but don't keep on bringing the other gal in your realtionship,just forgive.obviously that he's back is another sign that he loves you and realised how much you meant to him at the time you broke up,you don't realise how much you love somebody until you let them go fisrt. be positve about the suituation an see it has a chance its going to enhance your relationship has he will be afraid to let you go again.
2006-11-02 06:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by trisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all u can do is to forget about the past and look to the future that is all u can do if u keep dwelling on the past it will never work and certainly wont last either just be happy and grateful that said we can give the relationship another try GGODLUCK.
2006-11-02 06:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by baby dust for me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day when you are with a man who truly loves you and would never do anything sooo stupid because he knows it'll hurt you. You will look back on this and say I cant believe I put up with that ****ole.
2006-11-02 07:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone he is playing basketball with the both of you, next he will make up a lame excuse why you and him shouldn't be together and go back to her. anyway he has probly had his eye on the other girl from the jump.
2006-11-02 06:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by latres 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take it slow and easy. give it time. be prepared for the worst but hope for the best, ok? dont let some fool get you down. sometimes the saying is true, if they do it once they'll do it again. so wach out and be aware, ok? good luck
2006-11-02 06:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be halthy and be with him you have to choose to forgive and the feelings will follow and you will have to repeateldy forgive for while until the feelings accompany it otherwise its you who willl be feeling bad all the time and thats not healthy
2006-11-02 06:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bud 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if that was me and my boyfriend had done that 2 me i dont now what i would have done but i wouldnt have gone back 2 him straight away i would of waited k
2006-11-02 07:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋