I have an almost 20 year daughter who won't find a job,refuses to do anything when told to. She wants to come and go whenever she pleases,tries to assume she has the right to do and say whatever she pleases. Tries and has assumed she has priviliges that she dosen't have in my house. Thinks it is her right to stay in my house instead of a privilige. Very abusive and disrespectful in the way she talks to me. Tries to dictate what she will and won't do in my home.
I am from the old school and refuse to continue to put up with her mess. She says she will not leave the home untill she gets ready. Things have come to head,as far as I'm concerned,and have had enough of her mess. I am at the point of going to drastic measures to get her out. I don't want to get physical but it may come that point because of her attitude, which is shitty. Open to any suggestions.
2006-11-01 22:14:08 · 18 answers · asked by cisco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
grab her by the scruff of the neck...throw her out of the house belongings and all....tell her to get respect yer have to earn it and that its your house not hers...if she thinks she is so cool tell her go find her own way....you dont have to put up with that kind of crap wether its one of your kids or not
2006-11-01 22:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by elshadon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until she was gone and pack her stuff up very nicely. I would leave out just enough for about one week. I would tell her she can get a job and watch her mouth within a week or find somewhere to go live. Some kids think it is the parents job to support them forever. She sounds like she needs a reality check. The world outside is not as nice as you. I would stick with this plan and use alot of tough love. If you dont she will end up nowhere always looking for a handout.
2006-11-02 06:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Misty b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rule 1. My house, my rules
Rule 2. To contribute to the household you WILL help in any or all assigned tasks.
Rule 3. Set some goals(job,school) and set a date(something realistic)
Rule 4. To get respect you give respect
Rule 5. If you can't or won't follow these rules then there will be consequenses(and FOLLOW THROUGH)
If nothing works then it's time for some tough love. Throw her stuff outside and change the locks.
2006-11-02 06:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel with you. However, she is still your daughter and you do not want to get physical because that is a desperate measure that can also get you in a heap of legal and personal, emotional problems. I am sure you must have tried to get other family members such as aunts or uncles to mediate and convince her to change her ways. Well, you could ask for a court order to have her leave home.
2006-11-02 06:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this one way I detect some pretty shitty stuff on your part a daughter often only reacts with what she knows over her life time and this sounds like some reaction to a possible shitty life she has had why dont you try to show love and understanding
2006-11-02 07:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your on the right track. She is going to have to leave and you have to stop putting up with all this stuff. Stand up for yourself and put her out on the curb. She has no right to act this way in your house. Try just changing the locks next time she leaves, maybe she will get the hint.>
2006-11-02 06:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to be very strict, either work and obey the house laws or leave!! It can be no other way. If you have problems with her, put a restraining order on her..It's YOUR home, she is grown, and could have her own. There is no reason for you to let your own child run your home!
2006-11-02 06:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by janet r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know you will not tolerate such treatment in your own house and if necessary you have to police come to take her out.
It she does not comply to your wishes, do what you have to and call the police. Be tough, best wishes.
2006-11-02 06:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by Psychic Sk8r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get out and then if she doesn't, get all her stuff and put it outside and change all the locks. If she tries to start trouble,call the police.
2006-11-02 06:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks...call the cops...Tough love always works...get a restraining order...it's your house, and even though you love her it's time you out your foot down
2006-11-02 06:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by Teena R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋