what can I do to stop stress in my life?

Question

What kinds of stresses are there?

What happened to misschate answer? I didn't get to note down the book. As for the chocolates I better pass cause they would just add to my anxieties.

I like being a minimalist in my life without realizing that Budha said so.

Answer 1

First, some of the facts:

Fact #1: Some stress is not only necessary and desirable, but also quite unavoidable for the “normal” functioning of any organic life form. You know you are suffering from unhealthy levels of stress when it starts interfering with your well-being and becomes a chronic and off-balancing factor against a happy and quality (i.e. inner peaceful) existence.

Fact #2: Certain proven anti-stress measures, techniques and/or treatments such as Yoga, meditation, walking/running (moderate exercise in general), Stress Management, activities with inherent calming effects such as gardening (lol) or listening to your favorite music, traveling to/vacationing in destinations you like, counseling, not dwelling on things beyond your control, not taking on additional responsibilities and goals beyond your emotional and physical threshold of tolerance, “How To” books (only a short list of good ones out there), medications (in extreme cases), and even natural remedies may all offer some (mostly temporary) relief.

Fact #3: Gimmicky advice (e.g. keep cool; drink a beer and chill out, etc.), goofy ploys (e.g. taking a course in The Hidden and Stress-reducing Powers of Needlework lol), and the endless permutations of “hiding one’s head in the sand” strategies (e.g. relying on others to resolve our issues for us; creating meaningless distractions; burying yourself in work, etc.), are almost always doomed to fail!

Fact #4: Different personality types appear to be inherently predestined to experience different degrees of stress. In other words, there seem to be as many different types, mixes, and degrees of stress out there as there are human beings. Some of us stress over money, some of us stress over our jobs, some of us stress over our kids, some of us stress over lack of security, some of us stress over our phobias, some of us stress over everything ………. and many tend to even stress over Love!

Now here’s what I think:

I think nothing short of a complete behavioral modification, spiritual reawakening (PLEASE, notice I did NOT say religious), and philosophical transformation can ever be truly effective against a chronic case of stress. You “literally” have to rewire (retrain) those brain connections (neurotransmitters) to behave differently than they have been used to behaving for decades. … Make no mistake about it; pathological stress is just as much a physical addiction (to the abnormally high and constant levels of certain brain chemicals, and hormones) as it is to a stiff emotional kick in the butt. A highly intelligent individual, such as you, can NOT rely on half-baked and transient solutions to cure herself of her life-long inner insecurities and whatever else reason that maybe at the heart of her high “stress addiction”. Do your soul-searching, concentrate on that which brings genuine happiness, compassion, and Meaning to your being, and learn to let the rest fall where they might. ... Gravity may loom heavy, but remember, this is a Quantum Mechanical Universe, as well.

Answer 2

You can't stop stress. Stress is part & parcel of life. Sometimes stress actually helps you excel beyond what you think you can do. What you can do is minimise stress so that it doesn't reach a 'danger' level. There are many ways to minimise stress and different people are more acceptable to different ways. Some of my friends feel playing computer games are distressing, while others prefer a game of badminton, etc. Find an activity that makes you feel comfortable and that would most likely distress you.

Answer 3

I agree with everything [ЭΩ∞] said. I was going to say the exact same thing. The guy's just so dang prolific in thought and nimble in response it's hard to beat him to the punch. I suspect he's still "out to lunch" though because I'm still waiting for the rest of his answer to my question about the Dogon from two days ago. [ЭΩ∞], if you're listening, the wait is becoming very stressful. And while we're on that topic, g3n1_ouz0, I'm beginning to find it stressful that you change your avatar every couple of days. Are you trying to travel through Y!A incognito? If so, it isn't working.

Now for the little I have left to add to answering your question. The Buddha said give up all desire for attachment. Ultimately it's that desire for attachment that produces most of the unwanted and undesirable stress. Just consider giving it all up. Simplify your life. Become a minimalist.

Answer 4

Prozac/ just joking its probably a good thing your leaving.'m allot older but grew up in the same environment you just described, its not pleasant, i became a dunk and alcoholic because of it, well it was my choice yes, but I'm sure the way i was raised and the drugs and booze that was so ever popular around my house didn't help, at least you see it as a problem, nothing can make your dad stop until he is ready, it took me the threat of death and even then i played with the idea, your love life will pick up in college, free sex and study, don't worry about it. back to your dad tell him you love him and drinking makes him crazy, but he wont stop until he hits bottom, if he wont admit it there is not much you can do, look out for yourself first, get your education, hopefully your dad will come around before its to late, sorry i couldn't help more, you'll be in my prayers and i wish you luck at school,

Answer 5

You could Die - to STOP stress.
A better plan, however, is to learn to MANAGE stress, and deal with it when it comes.

There is going to be stress in your life, as long as you live. In fact, you really wouldn't want to Stop all stress in your life, some stress is healthy. There is DIStress (bad stress) but there is also EUstress (good stress). [become familiar with these two words: distress, eustress]

Stress management is the key.

Answer 6

Wow, you don't give us any info about your life. Try to get a less stressful job, don't take things people say that offend you to heart, do deep breathing excersises at night before you go to sleep, try yogo and drink one of those herb teas that relax you like sleepy time or nighty night. Good luck to you. It's so important for your health to relax.

Answer 7

my divorce sure relieved a lot of stress! seriously, you can't eliminate stress totally.....well, there IS one way, stop living. is that really an option?

Answer 8

in your mind: you need to face reality and accept the fact that in life you will always find problems, life is boring without problems and problems make you grow stronger as a human being. and stop making great expectations, stop dreaming, and start doing something to make your dreams come true! every human being is special, including you!

Answer 9

Just relax. Tell yourself that you cant change everything. Tell yourself that life will go on with or without you. do sports, make good friends, smile a lot and pray !

Answer 10

stop voting liberal...realize there can be a future without government control and intervention..rely on yourself...tell people what you feel and if its important to you..fight for your rights and dont take no for an answer.