Is demands for sex , or refusal to have sex, domestic violence?

Question

Recently, while at the Johnson County (KS) Courthouse, I looked at a brochure on domestic violence. As usual, the brochure was designed only to be read by women. It listed a number of ways to determine whether a woman is a victim of an abusive man. It said you are a victim if one or more of the items applied. Two items caught my interest.

Has he demanded sex from you?
Has he refused to have sex with you?

Is it my imagination or is this a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation? If she has an intimacy problem, physical or mental, and he wants to have sex, she's a domestic violence victim. If he has an intimacy problem, physical or mental, and won't have sex with her, she is a victim of domestic violence.

Answer 1

Domestic violence is a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation from start to finish.
The DV person intends to get away with it. He is not doing anything. He is innocent,
If you say he did anything, he will prove you are crazy.
Why will he jerk you out of bed at midnight with a cold gun in your nose. Just because he is strong enough to do so.
Why does he spend hours in a rage, acting like he must have you full attention on the subject or his behavior, with no way to defend your self or get out of it. I saw the green eyed monster doing this, and I was dodging the blows,for years after I did get out of it.
There is no love, no sex for you with the brute, but you can't say no to him for any reason, no thank you, never a compliment. Just responsibility.
They are so nice to people, no one would ever suspect they would do such a thing.
Two faced or double minded is not the word to describe them, but evil sure is.
I think this condition is inherited.
I am sure the highest power in heaven and on earth got me out of this mess.

Answer 2

Yup damned if you do or don't. If you want sex and she doesn't you are a perverted beast. You don't care about her. If she wants it and you don't then you're a cheating philandering bastard. You don't care about her. Sounds more like emotional blackmail rather than domestic violence. Violence would be if you physically clubbed her over the head and brought her back to the cave and raped the hell out of her. For sure this brochure was good reading for "woman only"! Get some more ammo to further emasculate those male abusers. Any behavior seems risky. Close quarters here being caught between a rock and a hard place.

Answer 3

None of these answer-ers have a clue papa bear. While I can't speak for a man with holding sex as being domestic violence I can speak of the other. I was in a bad situation with a live in boyfriend that would corner me and force sex on me. Yes, we normally would have sex at least once a day but that was not enough for him. I am in the bodybuilding community and he was a bodybuilder taking steriods and that brings out aggression in most males and he would overpower me. He would pin me down and do anything he wanted. I was scared to death of him. In short, I have told you some things I actually have never shared before. As I said, these other people are clueless and should shut the *** up. So yes, I believe this to be domestic violence. Hope my answer helped.

Answer 4

You raise an interesting point. I would say, if he demanded sex and she refused - and as result of this, he hit her, then she is a victim of domestic violence. However, how can a wish to have sex or a refusal to have sex be classed as violent??? I am confused. Let me know if you get a conclusive answer, because I'd like to know that to!

Answer 5

it isnt the actual demand or refusal that makes it domestic abuse/violence,,it is the distinction between giving something freely and willingly or withholding the same,,it is about mental power over another,,what better way to get your wife to think there is something wrong with her than to refuse sex on whatever grounds but 'reward' her with sex for good behavior,,it plants the seed of diminished self-worth and for any person,,man or woman to have this done by a supposed loving spouse can be destructive to the persons value of themselves thus allowing another power over their emotions,,"i can give and i can take away" leaving the person on the receiving end with nothing certain but what they are told,,good eh

Answer 6

I think you may have read something wrong. Domestic violence can be caused over one of the partners wanting sex and the other not, but a mere asking is not an offense by itself.

Answer 7

If I undergo in recommendations precise, i'm quite specific there's a quite severe fee of relatives violence in lesbian relationships. I desire i ought to quote the learn, yet I merely comprehend if from my professor talking approximately it. And sure, that's a topic with little understanding. i comprehend there is little help. think of a guy calling some small police rigidity saying he's being abused by potential of his significant other. are you able to think of the reaction? It would not be all that supportive.

Answer 8

1 min, dat cant be listed as domestic violence, cos its not only guys dat demand to have sex, and refuse it at times, i know 4 a fact some married women do so as well
jus dont read them girl stuff things, its all shiat belive

Answer 9

It's a no win situation for us. We are destined to fail and we have other people out there to try and help us along. I think we can find enough ways to get into trouble on our own, we don't need other people trying to help us.>

Answer 10

That's a strange brochure my friend.
I can only hope it's isolated.