for example,get jealous if i see other people and ring / text excessively or always wanting something off me like "can i borrow this or that"?
is this normal behaviour?
how can i attract friendships which are more well balanced?
2006-11-01 21:20:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Faith.
2006-11-01 21:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is an exchange.
Think what you put in,
and you'll realize you have such compassion showing that you're maybe an easy mark.
Don't reveal yourself so fast in the relationship, you may be volunteering to be their victim.
Redefine what a freind means to you. Change your criteria for selecting them...and don't make yourself so available.
If you can't look at your side of what you are doing, instead of faulting them....you'll get no where fast.
I know I sould too much like your mom....but,
well, I'm not. I'm an unaffected outsider, reaching into myself and speaking straight up.
Hope that helps some,
J.P.
2006-11-01 21:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by J P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set out your boundaries from the start of a new friendship. Be clear in instructions, say things like, I will call you on Thursday and then do it! If someone texts you late at night answer their question and say, goodnight. Dont reply when it is intrusive. Needy people need clear boundaries and without them they will become more invasive and clingy!
2006-11-02 11:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sluttty McSluttt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be giving off an air of being needy, so you attract the same kind of friend. Try to be more assertive in your choice of friends.
2006-11-01 21:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno i've had some needy type friends but they've known how far to go they dont ask cos they know they dont get
dont get me wrong i'm a very good friend i'll do anything for anyone
i think thats maybe what you have to do get a bit of backbone no offence meant
let them see your a friend but the friendship only goes so far
2006-11-02 03:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand your ground, be honest and practical. you can be a nice person and do all of these things at once. read miss manners (in the washington post online). she has great answers to dealing with people who ask for inappropriate things in a kind way.
2006-11-01 21:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the needy types. Seek out strong, self-assured personalities.
2006-11-01 21:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People treat you the way you teach them to treat you.
I'm not being harsh, I'm exactly the same sometimes.
2006-11-01 22:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by nev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i am exactly the same! some people are just emotional vampires. if some one can help you then they will be helping me 2!
2006-11-01 22:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by fruitbat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheer magnetism!
2006-11-01 21:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by Polo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got to set boundaries...speak to them and tell them that they're making you feel uncomfortable.
2006-11-01 22:51:28 · answer #11 · answered by sircrazydude90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋