You marry, but your not in love with her, then she gets pregnant and you stay in the marriage until the child is grown...now what do you do?
2006-11-01 21:18:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Serious replys only...this is no joke.
2006-11-01 21:19:04 · update #1
A divorce is painful, but why stay in a Marriage and hurt more. When is enough enough after 24 years of Hell? What will happen to her? This is horrible and hard to see the light ahead.
2006-11-01 21:26:21 · update #2
Though you say you married but not in love.Your life has not been loveless.You cannot change the past,so don't waller in self pity nor expect praise for doing the honorable. But keep in your heart and your mind all of the happiness you have given and received over the years. Isn't the first rule of Love ,to love ourselves? You don't speak of how your relationship with her is-would you miss her if she dissappeared from your life Today-Never to be seen or heard from again.How would you act ?What would you do?Is this what you are looking for?
Many people with children don't stay together even when they say they Love each other in the beginning. Sounds like you may have something pretty special already,the pasture is not always greener on the other side.
The flipside is if it is unbearable to be together,then go your seperate ways and look for happiness,just remember to love your children and keep them in your life even if they are grown.
I guess what I'm trying to say ,Love isn't always magnificently romantic,easy or fireworks.I know it is often portrayed in such a manner giving false ideals,making many feel as though they have been left out.When the truth is Love is kind,always forbearing,patient and time honored.Search your heart and soul,then communicate with your wife the things that are to be,whatever your needs or desires-and make provisions-for how do you know she is not feeling the same?
Best to You
Mary Who!
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2006-11-01 22:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mary Who? 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
try to love her, maybe she has good things in her personality that u didnt discover yet...raised up ur child n take care of him...but if u cant stand this woman n u really dont wanna live with her then it's better for u both to leave each other but in a mature way without any fights...n then choose the one u really need the second time...but what i see is to give urself another chance with her cuz she is the mother of ur child n he needs u both...good luck :)
2006-11-02 05:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by ^Butterfly^ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Option 1: You get used to it and carry on.
Option 2: You get flirty and start cheating and end up in a divorce and start all over again.
Option 3: You start loving her really.
2006-11-02 05:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If there is no love, marriage will never work. Getting married for financial stability or an arranged marriage or you do it because everyone expects it to be is wrong. There has to be love, devotion and communication for marriage to work.
2006-11-02 05:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mike H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i can relate to this question. after 8 years of marriage being with him for 12 years. he told me he wasn't in love with me. i was crushed and hurt. but now i can say to him thank you. because if we would have stayed together we would have made each other unhappy. he stayed as long as he did for the kids sake. but you hurt your mate more when you stay in a marriage for comminent reasons such as children and not love.so do not hurt her anymore than you have find the courage in your heart to be honest with your spouse
2006-11-02 09:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a Divorce
2006-11-02 05:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
mister, uve no choice, but 2 stay along wiv her
if u told her b4 dat u dint love her ( woz it arranged or sommat, jus wondering y u didnt love her)
any way u cud divorce or seperate from her and send money and stuff 2 help her supprt herslef and the child
or u could jus try getting help from a councillar, who r betta of telling u what 2 do then any of us, since they are more betta trained at theyre job, and some of us are probably jus skool kids
2006-11-02 05:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you won't be able to know if your marriage is worth saving until you can figure out a way to communicate with your wife. try marriage/family counseling.
what does she want?
maybe you shouldn't have gotten her pregnant if you weren't in love with her. just a thought.
2006-11-02 05:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
divorce? i think you are doing more damage staying in the marriage rather than finding someone else to be the yin to your yang..
divorce is common so your kid should be fine as long as you still see him...
(PS: prenup?? prenup??)
2006-11-02 05:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by Trey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then you hopefully have learnt from your mistakes and make smarter choices the second time around.
2006-11-02 05:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋