I have this friend, whom I met after seven years, and fell in love with at first sight. Am I doing anything wrong?
2006-11-01 20:39:05 · 32 answers · asked by AllIWant2Know 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Iam a guy, and she's a girl...just to add on that!
2006-11-01 20:46:59 · update #1
There's nothing wrong, I'm sure you didn't mean to fall in love. If your feelings get any stronger try telling her but things might get awkward. Sorry that's probably not much help.
2006-11-01 21:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by DuctTapeGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a feeling of affection and intense attraction to another. There is nothing wrong about falling in love with a friend especially since you've met him/her after several years. I would advise that if you are looking at expressing your feelings you should spend a few months to get to know him/her better at first. Then be prepared for 3 scenarios. One where the opposite person will feel mutually about you and in that case there is no problem, the second wherein you'll both remain friends which otherwise know as a torturous one sided relationship and the third which might provoke anger & confusion to the opposite person. Many people say that you stand a chance to lose a friend by falling in love with them but a good friend never leaves your side and always tries to understand you and make you understand.
2006-11-01 21:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Cherie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong.. its natural to fall for friends of the opposite sex i would think.. you know them better then just some random you decide to try and hit it off with.. so it could make the relation stronger.. but you need to be weary.. because if you and her do end up getting togheter.. you may lose the friend you had if you fight and do break up...
i have had this thing for a friend of mine for like ages now... ive known her since i was a little kid but now i know that we probably wont ever be together in that way but even so i cant imagine my life without her... so being just friends is still perfectly fine for me....
2006-11-01 20:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing at all wrong with that! Best friends make the best partners!
I fell in love with my friend of 9 years and we have been in a committed relationship for 3 yrs now!
2006-11-01 20:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not a problem at all but a better thing. But always watch-out if the relationship does not workout fine..it could also ruin your friendship if anything happened through out your love relationship..better you go for it then regretting it later in future..i mean if the person fall in love with someone else..or else that person is also in love with you but afraid of making the right move...at the end both of you loose..Just give it a try
2006-11-01 20:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Qholif D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IN MY OW OPINION IT IS NOT COMPETELY WRONG AS WELL AS IT IS NOT COMPLETELY RIGHT.BY SAYING THAT ALL IM IMPLYING IS THAT THERE ARE CERTAIN SITUATIONS WHERE THINGS LIKE THAT HAPPEN AND IF YOU FALL FOR A FRIEND IT IS NOT YOUR CHOICE YET IT IS WHAT YOU FEEL AND ITS SOMETHING THAT WE SOMETIMES CAN'T CONTROL.BUT THEN A GAIN YOU HAVE TO CONSIDER THE FACT THAT SOME PEOPLE LIKE MYSELF BELIEVE IN FRIENDZ SHOULD JUST STAY FRIENDZ BCOZ IF U FALL FOR THAT PERSON SOMETIMES THEY PERHAPS FEEL THE SAME WAY OR NOT AND IT COULD RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT PERSON. I'D SAY SET YOUR BOUNDERIES AND BE DIRECT ABOUT YOUR WHAT YOUR INTENTIONS
ARE AND MOST IMPORTANTLY KNOW WHERE TO DRAW THE LINE.
2006-11-01 20:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is an old saying Never S__g your friends as when it is over you loose 2 people in your life. A friend and a lover. So I guess it is up to you
2006-11-02 02:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by sweetiesweetydarling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole taboo about friends applies to close friends etc. After seven years the friend is fair game by any dating standards.
good luck
2006-11-01 20:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by irini d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me and my husband was friends for nearly ten years before we got together and we stil good friends now dont see why anybody would think its wrong as this is how it would have been done 50 years ago and if ya no somebody very well emotionally then it makes it heaps more fun physically as there is no boundries as you know they already love and respect you for who you are
2006-11-01 21:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by truebrit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just married my best friend of 17 yrs...yes really...i had been married 2 times before he had been married once (his wife died from cancer) and had a kid while in his twenties...there was a life we both had to live before we could be together...and now all of that is done and we can just be happy knowing each others crap and still being OK with it...we have baggage we just don't care its not shocking....we know EVERYTHING about each other we had 17 yrs to watch each other go in and out of relationships and i think it has created a trust and a band that is truly the foundation for our really great marriage.
marrying your best friend is the key to happiness i am sure of it!
2006-11-01 20:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by never2pink 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋