Ok..so get this...been with my guy 4 lyk 6mnths...frm the off we clicked...truth is i been in love before but NEVER like dis...not where the person actually understands me...my point is that he keeps tellin me im different, that hes neva been this tyt with a gyal, that im the only gyal he hasnt and wont play, that hes never told a gyal he loves her and hes never done so much for a gyal before, he took me to his fam n evrytin!! point that im tryna make is that he only tells me these things sumtyms (like wen hes drunk)...other tyms hes so reluctant to talk bout his feelins! and im so unsure...i think has he used these lines before...hes 24 4 gawds sake!! then i doubt in him and then i have a problem with his past..i wanna be the only one for him, the only one that means anything to him (psycho i knw!)...he says i am(without me askin) but wen i do ask he shrugs and says 'more or less' arrrghhh!! what do i believe...the drunk or the sober...tin is e always wants 2 knw hw i feel!! HELP!!
2006-11-01 20:29:04 · 21 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I typed it like that to shorten it!!
Anyway, you cannot accuse me of being a chav, this page isnt about your spellin its about getting your questions answered...you understand me now?
Gyal=Girl
yes i know its easier just to write girl but used to texting!
And to be honest, I just needed to know if i was alone in thinking the truth comes out when drunk...thanks to the girl who i will be voting as the best answer...she makes sense...the rest (besides a couple) are just pathetic...are you teachers or do you just like to criticise?
2006-11-01 20:50:13 · update #1
Oh and to Camilla...check ur spelling before you criticise my grammer..Thankyou to the person who told me about her fiancee...you've helped...!!
2006-11-01 20:54:39 · update #2
No i know its real and its not insecurities...i see him almost everyday, and trust me i can trust him...i just met him at a point when he wanted to grow up, the only thing is that due to his background he finds it hard to communicate his feelins...the only way they come out is when we argue or if his drunk (both times not very often)
Anyway thankyou for the helpful answers...or those that tried to be...thsoe that just criticised my grammer...you must really not understand the meaning of yahoo answers!!
2006-11-01 21:13:45 · update #3
Ok, firstly, the way you say he is 24 for god's sake, you make it sound like he is really old and I ,as a 25yr old, resent that! lol! Anyway, men sometimes have problems saying how they feel and when he has a drink inside him, it may well be giving him the guts to tell you how he feels. Maybe he feels embarrassed when he wakes up in the morning and realises that he said all those things to you! My fiance is 25 and he still has to have a stiff drink to tell me how he feels sometimes! Christ, he had a few whiskey's before asking me to marry him! Some men are just shy when it comes to their feelings, especially if they are laddish. Don't worry about this too much, just enjoy the compliments when they come and enjoy your time together! He would never say it if he didn't mean it I am sure! Just enjoy your relationship because worrying about every little thing will just waste your energy! x
2006-11-01 20:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I find questions written like this really hard to understand. Maybe I'm getting old! I think I have understood what you mean.
You've only been with him for a few months and so I think you should try to relax a bit more. The pushier you are, the faster he will run in the opposite direction. Let the relationship take its natural course and what will be will be.
There is a saying, 'When wine goes in, truth comes out' so perhaps he is stating his true feelings when he is drunk as he has less inhibitions then but try to chill, see some other mates besides him to keep the lines of communication open with them as you never know when you will need them and enjoy the ride instead of trying to railroad him into a full on commitment.
2006-11-01 20:38:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said that Yahoo isnt about spelling but, I had to read Panda's translation before I fully understood your problem. I am not judging you but it does make life easier if we all speak the same language. Saying that, it seems you already know what you are going to do, yes its true that men dont speak about feelings, they bottle them up and trying to make your man talk about something he doesnt want to may make him resentful. Nobody on here can tell you what he is really thinking hun, everyone will have a tale to tell or advice on what to do but we dont know what he is really like. Trust your own judgement, if it goes wrong then you will move on in your life and find someone else eventually. If he does love you then hopefully it will all turn out ok. Whatever you do darling, I wish you well
2006-11-01 21:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's a gyal? I couldn't find that in my dictionary
If fact, there's so many words I couldn't find.
Did you notice the words "check spelling" somewhere on the page where you can type in a question? I'm willing to bet that didn't know what a gyal was either
2006-11-01 20:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the translation:
you have been with this guy for 6 months
he only tells you how he feels when he is pissed
he has taken you to meet his family
you are very insecure about yourself
you are jealous of previous relationships he has had
response:
talk to him when he is sober and ask him how he feels..then get on with it and stop stressing..relax and enjoy yourself...there is no way you can change the past so dont waste time worrying/obsessing over it...you may be his future..or you may not be...but you certainly wont be if you cant leave the past where it belongs...in the past
2006-11-01 20:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by panda64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you re being played for a fool. sorry i know that's harsh but its real and i say this from experience. I dated a man very similar sounding ( i hope its not the same one cause he said the same thing to me!) I did believe the drunk side of him and he broke my heart. And then I found out all of the cheating he had done, and I thought i knew him! Save yourself before he breaks you . good luck.
2006-11-01 21:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by eatmyjismbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost interest in the question half way down as you took ages getting to the point and all that street talk is a headache... just write in English
2006-11-01 20:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look girl-almost everyone has a past-so just concentrate on the future-but u r right he should say good things when not drunk-try to communicate more and in an easy way.good luck
2006-11-01 20:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by IKNOWNO 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys can only verbalise their feelings when they've had a bit of 'dutch courage'. Go with your gut, you know he's really into you.
2006-11-01 22:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chill pill and stop causing waves in your happy relationship !!
2006-11-01 20:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by IloveMarmite 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋