ok my x gf is married and she had a birth just 3 weeks ago,i still love her and i cant imagine my life without her,although we broke up 3yrs ago and she was back to her husband and now she is a mother but i still love her,do u think there should be a chance for me to be with her?and should i contact her?
p.s am a les
2006-11-01 20:10:02 · 11 answers · asked by Tara 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First off if she has moved on with her life and has started a family then maybe you should move on as well.
I understand how you feel though, and I know its not easy but sometimes its best to just let go. You may get hurt trying to have a relationship with someone who is already in a relationship. She may no longer feel the same way for you and that can be a real heartbreaker. Honestly though I would call her just to let her know how I feel and see how she responds to that. If she gives you a bad reaction then move on with your life there are plenty of women who will love you and only YOU.
Im pretty sure she wont be looking forward to leaving her husband after just giving birth 3 weeks ago.
And you know how some men can be their ego's get all involved and it can be a sticky situation. Just be carefull and don't give your heart to someone who doesnt deserve it.
2006-11-02 03:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by Some1Special 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a bad time to start trying to be with her if she just had a child. Perhaps in a few years when things get stale again...? Its been three years though maybe you should try to move on...you should definitely contact her but as a friend. I learned a long time ago that if you really love someone who can't be in a relationship with you, you love them enough to be their friend and not need the relationship. Contact her because I bet she could use a good friend to comfort her through the stress of having a new baby around.
2006-11-02 05:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by AJ F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I was in love with a straight girl, madly in love. I'm still not over her and it has been six years. I am happily in love again and that helps, but I don't know if the pain ever goes away. Does she know how you feel? I don't know if I'd tell her right now, since she's adjusting to a new baby and everything, but in a month or so maybe you should let it out. Even if she doesn't love you anymore, telling her how you feel can help. Then at some point try to move on and find someone who loves you. But I totally feel for you. Ugh, totally.
2006-11-02 04:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is quite tough. But you gotta accept the cold hard truth so that you can move on yourself. Your ex has surely moved on. She has made her choice, and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it anymore. It would be fair to both of you to just let go, no matter how hard this may seem. Besides, if you two are really meant to be together, then you will get back together in time. Just let nature take its course. In the meantime, you should try going out with other people. Who knows, you might even meet the one you're meant to be with. I mean, this can even be the reason why you and your ex broke up in the first place. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-02 06:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always for the keep trying approach but not when there's a child involved.
A lot of gay women come to a point in their lives where they are so influenced by what society wants of them that they start to conform to these ideas of the family and although I don't agree with that you have to respect the lifestyle she has chosen and the life that she wants for her child.
You need to take some steps in moving on. It's going to be hard for you because it's been so long and your still hung up but if you don't you'll be miserable.
Be strong hun!
2006-11-02 04:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by valleylaydee85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell how much u love her from all what u typed and from keepin ur love to her for 3 whole yrs but darlin u should wait for maybe a month then ask her out for a coffee,while u r out ask her if she is happy with her husband,let her share u what bothers her in life...if u think she doesnot have a great love for her husband then go for her,so what if she has a baby?her baby will still be her baby and ur love won't harm the baby in anyway,but u should be ready for rejection,i mean dont make a big hopes for this coz there is a big possiblity that she reject u
2006-11-02 04:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by stang girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tara, sweetheart, I think it's time to give up the ghost. 3 years is a long time to be waiting around for something that isn't going to happen.
Get on with your life. (Be happy for her and her new baby), but don't contact her. Let her go.
Get out and about. Be loud and proud! Who knows? You might just find someone else right aroung the corner??? Good Luck, Alexgirl
2006-11-02 04:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by alexgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear I'm really very sorry cuz you should have already
realized that she doesn't care for you or else she would not
have married someone else and i'm sure you won't appreciate
to have someone else as your dad, you know what i mean "regarding the child." But don't worry life still goes on.
2006-11-02 04:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by Xylosheen Venomspell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely love her, let her go. She's obviously made her choice and it wasn't you. Sorry sweetie. Find someone else to love and get over her. I know it's hard but for both of your sakes, do the right thing.
2006-11-02 04:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by just jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just had a child....you know what all it takes to make a child...all the reasons are in front of you
2006-11-02 06:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by innocence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋