I'm so confused. I married a cheater but i can't get over him. I'm still with him. Sometimes he acts so nice that it is hard for me to imagine the real side of him. i know i should dump him but its not easier on me. I feel if i leave him, either he will get hurt or i will regret my decision later.. what is it? is that i love him? i'm so confused. i'm not happy with the present situation of my life. i feel i will never able to trust any guy.
2006-11-01 19:47:12 · 17 answers · asked by mind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will know yourself when you 've had enoguh of him. If someone tell you to dump him now and you are not ready, you won't be ready for it. Likewise, if you think you 've had enoguh by yourself, you won't look back and regret.
2006-11-01 19:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the crazy world we live in it is a tough thing to know what is right, unless you check the only source for truth, the Bible. Romans 12:17-18 says, "Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men." I know this is a very tall order, especially when infidelity is involved. The sad reality is that there is very little you can do directly, to change him. However, there is One, who can give you the love and grace to overcome the situation and find joy, even though trying times will come. I can speak from experience of this love and grace, as the foremost of sinners. I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive, and accept the peace that forgiveness brings. 1Corinthians tells us that love doesn't keep score (take into account a wrong suffered) and bears all things. I hope you will seek the truth of God's word and not rely completely on worldly wisdom.
2006-11-02 04:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know he was cheater before you married him? Just remember.....life is very short and you don't need to waste anymore time and emotion on this man if he won't be faithful to you. He obviously doesn't care if he hurts you. Don't stay in a relationship that makes you miserable. You might wake up someday and say to yourself.....being without him is no way near as bad as staying with him in misery. If you leave him....have faith that all men are not like that. When you find true love it is so very wonderful. (and I know....cuz I found it the 2nd time around)
2006-11-02 03:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by lostandfound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-pity is an excuse to do nothing. To appeal to sympathy for pity's sake is to seek affirmation of the choice to do nothing.
It's never easy to step into the unknown,with out the securities of the relationship. But the situation you are in now won't get any easier with time. If you stay you will one day grow tired enough to walk out but think of the wasted years of your life! I honestly think when a relationship goes down hill by the time we end up leaving it's not love that causes the pain,it is our pride!
2006-11-02 04:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi im 36 years old man. i was married 12 years. lived a great life with my wife and son. she cheated on me. i will never forget that night i came home from work. i thought i was dreaming. when i opened the bedroom door i told him "the guy" he has 20 seconds to leave. he then went to pick up his clothes, i said leave them there and he went down the hall out the family room to the front door butt naked running down the street to his car. as fo my wife who is my "X" now never got a second chance to even explain to me why. didnt want to know. wish i never saw it. i was completley DEVASTATED for months. i wouldnt wish that imorral act on any person. to make a long story short: I WILL NOT COME SECOND TO MY WIFE IN ANYWAY. NOBODY DESERVES THAT KIND OF PUNISHMENT. WHEN YOUR SUPPOSED TO BE WITH THE PERSON YOU LOVE FOREVER. IT DOESNT MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM. HE DOESNT THE SAME AS HE WOULD BE IN YOUR ARMS AND PUT YOU ON THE HIGHEST PEDESTAL YOU COULD IMAGINE. GOOD LUCK AND HOPE THIS HELPS. BY THE WAY I AM RE MARRIED AND I AM BLESSED WITH A WONDERFUL WIFE AND FAMILY.
2006-11-02 04:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by BT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what l wrote after mine cheated on me..
It doesn’t matter anymore.
I used to sit and wonder to myself,
what it was, I did so wrong.
Could I have treated you different?
or wrote you, a beautiful song.
I loved you with all of my heart,
and I believed, you truly loved me.
You used to say, I was your true love,
and there was no place, you’d rather be.
How could a love so wonderful and pure,
change, from the day we first met.
Was it I, who did you wrong,
or a friend, I will never forget.
But now, it truly doesn’t matter anymore,
why, you hurt and cheated on me.
Because I know, deep in my heart,
It wasn’t I, who cheated on thee.
So I just want you to know,
that if you ever, think of us two.
My life was truly changed, my dear,
and I deserve, a lot better than you.
By: Kenny P aka- Cobra
2006-11-02 04:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave, do what you need to do. Use the experience to gain wisdom for the next man you meet and fall in love with. There are good men out there, use your brain and maybe the advice of your friends and mother to help you along. Good luck!
2006-11-02 03:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by kittykatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an honest guy trust me leave this cheater you deserve better.If you leave him he will hurt for 5 minutes then he will find some one new and forget you exsisted.
2006-11-02 03:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all remove confusing thoughts and go 4 concrete solution. you are looking intellegent but i dont know still knowing all the things why u r with him.
first of all remember u will be thinking that some day he will be gud to u but it will never happen.
you dont need to regret you are right go on and break this current relation.
2006-11-02 03:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by deepak_phy06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either you stay unhappy with the cheater for ever or you move on ot wont be easier at first but good things will come after that
2006-11-02 03:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋