I am a 24 year old with 2 daughters(3 & 5). Going through a divorce living with a boyfriend. He knows I have been with other girls, but before I was with him. He says he loves me, wants to marry me wants to have kids with me, yet is always looking at or talking about another girls butt or breasts. Like I said he says he loves me , but if I've told him this bothers me and he keeps doing it , what should I think?
2006-11-01 18:32:48 · 10 answers · asked by Sweets 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweets: the only time you ever listen to what a man says is when he says "leave me alone" other than that don't listen to a word the man speaks; listen to what he does. A man's vocabulary is in his actions. Not in words. This is how we speak sweets, in deeds not words. So? What do his actions say? If your boyfriend is fondling some other woman's butt and boobs then whats it say? If he's telling you for weeks he's looking for a job and nothing comes out of it, not even a call back then whats that say? Listen to his actions in all things sweets.
2006-11-01 18:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he gives you promises, has little respect for your feelings. Is he better than the husband you are divorcing? Wait for a better man to come along. You have heard the old saying, "There are more fish in the sea!" No, he does not love you.
You have your daughters to care for. Put your attention on them, distract yourself with more schooling, a new job, etc. When you least expect it you will meet the right person that deserves your love. Emphasis: Give yourself more time!
2006-11-02 02:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by desertflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you think that he stopped being human when he fell in love with you? He's got a girlfriend, he's not dead. You need to relax your insecurities because it's going to destroy your relationship.
Just let it go, or make remarks of your own. Like, if he says he likes some girls boobs, point out that they look like watermelons or something.
Just, by the gods, relax about it.
2006-11-02 04:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't respect your feelings if he keeps doing it after you've said something. Are you sure he loves you? Every relationship is very sweet and lovey dovey in the beginning. Also, what about your girls? Do you really want them growing up around an adult male figure that objectifies women in that manner? I would re-examine everything in my life if I were you. Hope it helps.
2006-11-02 02:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by partypooperbebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all will be looking until we are dead... our rule is look, but don't touch!! My kids and my husband went to see the rainbow people. My youngest said 'Dad was looking at a lady with no clothes on" I said "I don't care as long as he didn't touch her" !! What a learning experience for them, this was when they were younger!! I went the night before. They were very interesting, we enjoyed it.
2006-11-02 02:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by mabell1025 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married. Obviously he is not taking into account how you are feeling. Some use the word love, like some eat candy, and like candy is doesn't last.
2006-11-02 02:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you are a bi, and you have your liaisons with other girls. So give him his space for now. May be you need a pre-marital agreement that you both would not be straying. Good luck.
2006-11-02 03:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him again that you don't like hearing that from him and if he wants to be in a relationship with you he needs to stop saing thoes things. If he does not stop tell him to hit the road.
2006-11-02 02:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by Vixen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I would think he's definitely not good husband material or more importantly good father material. He's too immature for that commitment yet.
2006-11-02 02:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by I saw whatudid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds rather immature to me could be you end up with another child (him)
2006-11-02 02:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋