How can I resolve my solitude?

Question

I sort of hate too many things. I hate society, popularity contests, fake people, ignorance, etc. I just recently started doing online school because I got fed up with the being controlled 7 hours a day. I had a lot of friends but and sort of pushed them all away. I had a girlfriend who meant the world to me but when she started getting too attached I hooked up with several other girls to prove to myself I didnt need her. Our relationship had a bad start because she hooked up with my best friend. But now shes gone and with someone else. So everyone that I hung out with is now gone because somthing is wrong with me. I hate being alone. But at the same time, I want to get away from everyone. How can I just be a normal person and live a normal life? Why do I push everyone away?

Answer 1

"Tis better to have no company than bad company."

Answer 2

The less you want to be forgotten, the more of a loner you become because it gets harder to trust people. Why give someone a memory of you if they're just going to throw it away? But in the end, life is about moving towards hope so it doesn't mean much if you succeed or fail as long as you keep moving. Being stagnant is like killing yourself. However, don't ever feel regret. If you want to be happy then conform, but if you can't then you must understand yourself through the arts (or whatever) so you can at least be comfortable.

Charles Dickens once wrote, "Life is made of ever so many partings welded together." Don't beat yourself up for not having control. There are no wrong choices.

Answer 3

I too was like you. Then one day I realised that I was a vey lonely person and it was all my fault. I went to mental health and have been seeing a psychologist and a psychiatrist. They have really helped me over come my problems. I am now starting to enjoy a normal life with friends and family. It is still hard a times but I will get there. Ask for help. If you get the right help you life will improve too. Good luck you are a normal person who just has a few problems. OK. Look after yourself, will be thinking of you.

Answer 4

I think you're trying to avoid being rejected by distancing yourself from people before they do. All the answers for your present behaviour probably lie in your past or childhood. I can tell you that because I am like you myself. I had to endure too much pain in my childhood which came from being rejected. I was a very outdoors girl and always interested in being with people and communicating with them. But at some time or moment of my life I can't recall exactly I turned into this whole other person. I never risk socialising with people or making friends because I have got this fear in myself that if I get attached in the slightest way they would hurt me so I always pull myself out before they get the chance to do any attacking. It gives me a sense of being in control and invulnerable. I crave for a normal social life and there are times when I really get tired of being alone but because of my bad history I try avoiding it at all cost.

Answer 5

I think alot of people go through similiar things. You should think of seeing someone, counselor, school group or find an outlet to vent your feelings. Sometimes it takes the right things and people to get you out of that funk.

Use your solitude to reflect and figure out where these feelings are coming from, what crosses your mind? There's nothing wrong with you, just something your going through. It's hard being an individual sometimes and it's hard finding true people, ones that will stick by you no matter what. People that accept you for who you truely are even at your worst.

Try to stay positive and find something that makes you happy, makes you look forward to it. Things will get better over time, just have to stay strong. Best luck. :)

Answer 6

you are loved because someone first loved you.
Do you know who that is...?

We were never made to be left alone, relationships are primarily important, yet can be difficult and unstable as you mentioned.

There is one who will NEVER leave you, and will always be by your side.

I think also what helps is a job, are you working at the moment?, a job, even if it is avarage, helps us to connect and give us a sense of belonging.

But the greatest way of "belonging" and being connected is with God. You were seperated from him at birth, this was never his intention, but if you humble yourself and you call upon his name, the wall of seperation will be gone, because Jesus bore it for you on the cross, if you look to Jesus Christ by simply praying to him in the comfort of your own room, he will make himself known to you, and you will never be alone, and you will have the best friend in the universe!

Its the truth
Sound weird?

Well if your honest and open try it... and see.

God Bless

thanks for the question

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Answer 7

Get a gym account and get into shape. And start to sing, or dance, or act, or all at once. You will build a peer group and find people of like minds. You will feel good about yourself and in turn become a better person.

Answer 8

you have a red and blue personality, independent and stubborn,
intelligent and unfriendly.
be yourself. your drive to succeed will result in success i f you work hard for it. learn to love things and tolerate things for what they are. accept that things are not perfect and deal with this fact.
happiness is relative, no one is always happy.

in any case mate your not the only person with this sort of personality, one of my good friends is like you, he can be such a dick to me, and i have many other friends, but for some reason i have never given up on him, and in some cases he has come through for me in some tight spots.
you shouldn't get depressed, just try a little harder to love.

good luck