I am married to a man who I love dearly. I have recently realized that I am attracted to women. I love my husband but I do find myself fantasizing about other women in order to have sex with him. I have only actually had sex with one woman and have been (in the past) with several boyfriends. I can see men as attractive but men in general no longer turn me on. Women on the other hand do. Am I bisexual because I do love my husband or am I gay because only women turn me on? I don't really like labels but I'm curious to know which label is more appropriate for my situation.
2006-11-01 18:25:45 · 21 answers · asked by just jenn 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Its simple, you are gay, but because of pressure from your society, you tricked your mind into believing you liked men, now that you matured more, you have come to accept it, relish your sexuality, you are a lesbian and should be proud of it... peace ;)
2006-11-01 18:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 5⤋
I would tend to say that you're bi. It sounds like you were attracted to men in general at some point. Maybe the novelty of having sex with them has worn off and having sex with women seems new and fun and exciting. If you were to have sex with more women, you may establish more of an equilibrium in your attraction between the two genders. Then again maybe not. If it turns out your preference is for women. Just make sure that you are being honest with your husband and everyone else as well as yourself.
2006-11-01 20:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by The Dark Adonis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should give it a little more time. I'm in a similar situation as you. My attraction to women ebbs and flows. For a few days I'll be obsessed with women, and sometimes I'm only into men. It's somewhat inconvenient, but you learn to live with it. I'm able to because I'm so attracted to my husband. I'm not sure how common this is, but give it some time. If you're not attracted to your husband even once in the next month or two, then maybe you are gay.
2006-11-01 20:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are. You know yourself best. Don't listen to your friends, for there really is no need to label. If you like both men and women, then that should be the end of it. If your friends keep pressuring you, just tell them to stop. They're probably not true friends to begin with. Just enjoy life. The labels just make it all the more confusing. Besides, labels can become tedious in the long run.
2006-11-01 22:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you find yourself attracted to Women, it's a new thing for you perhaps a new life style ventured into the Gay life. Who cares what people think and nobody should question you as to why you choose it. Enjoy if for what it is and when you have had enough. you will move on and if you choose to stay in it than maybe you have found your destiny to happiness in either way, becareful when you venture out and do not get caught up in the whirlwind of things. There are many styles in the Gay life just being Gay and that is what I call the whirlwind of things.
It is easier to say, I'm Gay, but I keep to myself, but that isn;t denial, you just chose to enjoy your way of happiness without getting caught up in the whirlwind of things.
Peace Al Rozz
2006-11-01 20:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are bi-sexual. I have ALWAYS been attracted to men, so I don't understand the confusion. I did try to be with women because of social pressure, but it was just destructive. I was not confused about what I liked though.
2006-11-01 19:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personaly i think your confused
ok you love your husband and well you like women no big deal
most women at one point in time in their lifes think about other women so my suggestion is take your time dont autimaticaly assume that you are gay because theres a good posibility that all it is is your curiosity getting the best of you
2006-11-01 18:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by staringmommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is all about competition. Maybe you don't feel attractive, or not getting enough attention. We as females tend to fantasize, because in the back of our heads, we know that all men are perverts!
2006-11-01 18:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You love who you love. Sex is only one part of love. Labeling is wrong because I think people change and should not limit theirselves. Your soul has no female or maleness.
2006-11-01 18:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by AveGirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of Lesbians who like men sexually, but if i was you i would stick with my husband and leave women alone. You don't need to burn your candle at both ends.
2006-11-01 19:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a million) sure I even have. Ever with the aid of fact i became little I even have been involved via male areas. 2) i began questioning i became bisexual whilst i became in seventh grade. i became around 12-thirteen 3) no i'm nonetheless interior the closet. I even have instructed one individual in basic terms. 4) you recognize you're gay or a lesbian in case you finally end up being attracted to the comparable intercourse. that's a piece in spite of the incontrovertible fact that it takes time.
2016-10-03 04:55:40 · answer #11 · answered by sashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋