I really love him alot and am marrying him in some time.
2006-11-01 17:49:01 · 15 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It’s important to get real about how much money you have whether that is two incomes combined or one person being the breadwinner that way you and your husband can set a realistic budget and financial goals. Don’t get me wrong financial independence is important, but there must be balanced with accountability in order to make a union work.
paaatches --Marriage is a partnership, and both individuals need to be well-informed. Many problems especially when it comes to money stem from lack of knowledge.
2006-11-01 18:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by paaatches 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since marriage is, sad to say, largely based on money then this needs to be addressed. Eventually it's going to become an issue so it would be smart to start doing some planning before you both tie the knot. Seemingly unimportant things before marriage turn out to be big things once you are married. And since this is bothering you "a bit" then don't put it off until it bothers you a great deal. You don't want to go into a relationship as serious as marriage with nagging concerns do you? So now is the time to discuss this with him as it does involve the two of you both.
2006-11-02 05:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im guessing he probably has a good idea already that you make quite a bit more than him, and in time he will find out the exact amount when you get married, but there is no need for you to really tell him your salary if you think it might make him feel bad for you to bring it up
2006-11-02 01:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two need to know more about each other- esp in the financial department- FOcus on the Family has a great book that talks about marriage issues before you get marred like- will we have children, how many- 2 paychecks or 1, where to spend holidays - with which part of the family and so on- it makes you think of some of the realities after the honeymoon- D
2006-11-02 01:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course tell him..in a good marriage it makes not a bit of difference who earns what..you need to talk with him to decide how much to save, allowance for each of you, etc..maybe sometime down the line there will be kids and he will stay home and be a house husband..I have friends, he is an engineer and she is a lawyer..she works and he stays home with the kids..works for them..I made more than my husband..no problem..
2006-11-02 02:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by jst4pat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does not telling him your income bother you so much? its money that u r earning, no big deal. If u tell him, he migh get insulted. Have u ever thought of that? But if he truly loves you, i suppose you and ur husband could laugh about it...
2006-11-02 01:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by Chemgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am surprised that you haven't talked about financial matters if you are getting married, if you don't tell him he is going to wonder what else you forgot to tell him
2006-11-02 02:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its bother you a bit...I would tell him, but make it sure in a nice way so he won't feel insulted....
2006-11-02 04:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by rauma_raumamary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it shouldn't matter who makes more as long as the rent gets paid and there's food on the table
2006-11-02 01:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by keoni_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should do it now...
It should not bother him at all..
If it does, you need to reconsider the marriage...
2006-11-02 01:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋