How would you behave?

Question

Towards someone after they've treated and talked to you like crap forno good reason at all................now they want tp pretend as though it's peachy king.Apologies were given,but their behavior was REALLY ghastly and inexcusable(behavior hard to forget).What would your attitude towards them be from here on out(or at least for a while)?

Answer 1

This has happened to me before with some passive-aggressive people. I treat them with great skepticism and caution even if they act friendly... trust has to be earned and regained slowly over time. It's possible I'll treat them normally in the future, but if their actions were ugly it will take awhile.

Answer 2

you need to value yourself at a higher standard and learn how to cut people out. I know it's hard the first time you do it, but take it from someone who learned the hard way, time and time again--nip this now before it gets worse. there are the types of friends that are beneficial to your life, and then there are the type, where it might be good for a while, until they mess up again and hurt you so badly.
You need to embrace the fact, not idea, the fact that actions speak louder than words, and behaviors like this from people who are supposed to be close to you and who treat you this way, these are not friends, and you will be better off without them.

Answer 3

HM. It depends. Maybe that person had a bad day and you're overreacting by not letting it go when they've apologized. Or maybe it's a pattern and that person is abusive.

What I would do is give myself a few days to cool off, maybe talk to a few people I trust about exactly what was said without necessarily saying who said it, and see if it gives me a different perspective. Then decide if the friendship is still worth it or if it really is healthier to walk away.

Answer 4

Your a nice person, so you don't treat them how they have treated you. In my opinion, you should tell them the truth about how you feel. He should understand the reason that you can't forgive him. If you truly look in your heart, and can't find it in you to forgive him, then he doesn't deserve it. You said it yourself dear, it was an unexcusable situation. Or you could forgive him and tell him that you will never forget what he has done. That even though you forgive him, things will never be the same between you two. Again, be honest about your feelings. Just don't hurt him like he's hurt you. You're the intelligent one in this situation. You'll know what to do.

Answer 5

If it was really "inexcusable" behavior, then I'd just tell them that I am no longer comfortable being in relationship with them because the trust that you had previously is irretrievably broken, tell them that you are no longer available to them in any way, and wish them well. Exit stage right.

Answer 6

If you want to stay around them then forget what happened and start anew if their capable of doing so...but if their not a forgivable person then you don't have to be around them ... in other words unless their your kids' father whom you have to see b/c of the kids' and your not married then keep the relationship about the kids' only but if your married to him then try to work it out but if he's physically abusive then get away from him as quick as possible and keep the upper hand by being strong enough to stay away....

Answer 7

I would have to question why I am still associating with this person. Obviously the apology wasn't good enough or you'd be past it. If it still bugs you, sit them down and talk about it. If you can't get past it, cut the ties and move on.

Answer 8

I'm fairly hard. I would be very standoffish. Possibly return a hello and then I would walk away. People need to learn that they can not do whatever they like and just be forgiven.