should i go see gynecologist?pls help?

Question

Heyy, I have a little problem.my bf and I tried to have sex a few times..and we did a little foreplay to get each other up, and I was all wet and stuff, and his penis was very hard. But when he tries to stick it in, it hurts so bad. It's like a stinging sensation. Maybe it's too tight. But when we foreplay, and he fingers me, he can always only fit one finger in. At first putting his finger in hurts like hell and I grab on to him and hold the pain in. But now his one finger can enter easily, with either no pain or very little pain. When he tries with 2 fingers it would hurt,cant go in,i also tried it myself but the most only 2 finger
wat shd i do?we quarrel a few times because of this
should i see gynecologist ?if yes,any recommend which clinic to go?pls help

i have tried again
but the most is only 2 finger
when i tried to insert 3finger,it hurt
if i go n see gynecologist,wat shd i tell them?
im a bit nervous

Answer 1

that part of your body is designed to stretch to accomadate the head of a baby.....the only thing i can think of is that maybe you are too tense......you need to relax....try lubricant aswell and maybe a few glasses of wine......

Answer 2

If you haven't had sex before, and it doesn't sound like you have, maybe your hymen hasn't broken yet. Occassionally it can be thicker than "normal" and be harder to break. That could be causing the pain. The best thing to do is find an ob/gyn. You can ask your family doctor, mother, or even friends or you could look up a free clinic in the area. You should also go see a gynocolygist now that you're starting/trying to have sex. They can go over contraceptive methods with you and answer any questions you may have. And another thing...you should tell you're boyfriend to go to hell or at least be a little more sensitive to your needs. If he's immature enough to complain because it HURTS for you to have sex, he's probably not ready to have sex at all.

Answer 3

My first Husband and I had similar problem. First you might be too tense with the anticipation, and a little scared about the pain. I would suggest going to the GYN. Just to make sure that there isn't anything seriously wrong. What you might try doing is going into a pool or tub. Or try Massage to relax. Planned parenthood is good, but your family doc can handle it has well.

Answer 4

You may be experiecing "vaginismus" , this is the tension at the muscle in the vagina which cannot relax to get penetration.

see gynae, may not help, it's in the mind of the lady, if you cannot relax down there, no one can help.

Try it slow with yr bf, and don't force it as it will make you more tense...good luck !

Answer 5

I would go to your gyno just to see if everything is o.k. that way you'll be assured that your fine and he/she will suggest what you can do to make sex more enjoyable. Dont bo embarrassed b/c many women experience this type of thing , just dont forget to get checked my a doctor

Answer 6

Yes. See a gynecologist. Not too uncommon a problem. Could be physical or psychological. Can't refer you as you don't say where you live.

Answer 7

You may want to use some kind of gel like K-Y or something like that. Believe me vaginas do expand, we have babies, it's made to expand unless he got a monster between his legs but still. You definately need to use gel. Good luck and enjoy.

Answer 8

Absolutely see your gyn. It's probably nothing serious, but many ladies have a smaller than normal vaginal opening, and your gyn can help you find out what your particular problem is, and help you resolve it.

Answer 9

I recommend lube, you burn because you are not "Wet enough" it may still hurt with lube but it will make it more comfortable. i don't think the gyno can help with any of that. good luck.

Answer 10

i wouldn't spend the $$$. either he's really big or you've been with no one else (sexually)...if you're msking progress with the fingers then you're probably just really tight. (which is a good thing!)