Are marriages becoming unfashionable?

Question

Have you ever realised how many people are not getting married anymore or how many are postponing it?

I am 26 and the first of my friends has just got married. She is the first amongst us to get married, yet I know so many people my age who already have one to three children, some living with their partners and some single. None of them talk of marriage.

What will happen in another 30 years time? How many people will be marrying then I wonder.

Answer 1

Decades ago most women had no other ambition than to marry and have children and be of service for her family. Also, sex without being married was seen as immoral. So were divorces. Today women have their own careers, their own income etc. And society has accept the fact that couples live together, even have children without being married.

To answer you question, I don't think marriage will ever go out of fashion. Women, in their hearts, still dream about a romantic wedding. Many of them see it as a sign of commitment from their partner's side if he wants to be married. The only difference is, today people don't get married so young. And women don't take too much crab from their husbands anymore, hence the high divorce rate!

Answer 2

I think church weddings are becoming unfashionable, more and more people seem to be getting married in hotels and abroad these days, lots of people are realising you don't have to get married as a status symbol anymore, thank goodness for that as far too many marriages break up for those reasons, you have to want to get married and not just do it because your next door neighbour or the girl in the next office at work has, some people are still pressurised into marriage these days and that's sad, I have a friend who is obsessed with marrying her poor daughter off to every bloke she goes out with, god forbid she gives into her mothers pressure and marries just for the sake of it, people see marriage as the big white dress and wonderment, they forget about all the other things that go with it though, marriage is a commitment and not a game, the rose tinted glasses should be left at the bottom of the aisle before you walk up it, I hope marriage does continue for the people who really want it and are really committed to it for all the right reasons, I've been married almost 22 years and wouldn't change my life or the way I love my husband for anything, we are lucky because marriage works for us.

Answer 3

I know what you mean. I am 29 and my GF is 24 and we have been living together for about a year. We are totally happy and love each other to death but we have no set plans on marriage. We always say "someday". She was totally against marriage until she met me, and I have shifted her beliefs on it a bit. I just think people are waiting longer than they did before. More people go to college now and want to get their careers in order before they take the plunge. I would marry my GF in a heartbeat, but I also understand that waiting is the best option. Yourself being 26 and not married is no longer a stigma. 30 years ago people would have asked "Are you damaged goods, what the hell is wrong with you?". More people are just waiting to find out who they really are before jumping into it. It's hard to give yourself to someone when you don't really know who you are yet. Most of my friends, who are the same age as me, have not been married. Only 2 of the 8 of my best friends from college have been married. People just tend to wait longer now, and that is definitely a good thing.

Answer 4

TRUE marriage will never grow ole. it is when the people meet through the footsteps that are laid our for them by God. They are like minded and when they marry they also include God in the partnership. Truth becomes an equal partner with each of them and Love. It is a union of the body, souls and spirits of the humans and the other part is of God. If any of the pieces are missing then it ain't a TRUE marriage.

Answer 5

Hi - I think people realize that they don't have to get married and they don't have to do it at a certain age and they don't have to do it and then pump out a bunch of kids right away.

Life is full of options and I think people are just exploring them. But, I suspect, that marriage is just one of those things that we will be doing for a long, long time. I think it is built into our natures.

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Answer 6

no one can tell or say what marryings going to be like its relly down to yous how you fell about getting married my little sister just got married at the beging of october and she 23 maybe in two years weddings will be back in no one can tell `

Answer 7

I am 30 but I have still passion of marriage. I want to experience it.

Answer 8

Its not about the word marriage.

Woman are evolving. Just like they are not vaccuming in their pearls woman are realizing that there is life without a husband.

Think about how many marriages are based on nothing. Woman I think are just finally figuring out that Yes, they are a powerful creature, Yes, they are capable of having a great job, Yes, they are capable of raising children on their own, and YES, WE CAN MARRY FOR LOVE.

Love is a rare thing. I think woman are just learning to hold out for it finally and to not settle.

Answer 9

i think it's a fear of commiting to the wrong person. personally, i think having kids is just another way to tie you down.

Answer 10

marriage is my ultimate nightmare