Motherhood Insecurity?

Question

I ask alot of question and every1 has been so helpfull with answering so thank you all (if uve seen my other Q's im bout 37 weeks) I went to my cousins and some lady had just had a baby. I'd say she was less than 3 weeks old; i got to hold her. She was so cute but so tiny. She squirmed around and made cute funny faces. Im just afriad that when I have my little girl I will accidently drop her or something. I know nothing about newborns and so scared I duno what to do. there will be no dad in her life so Im about all she'll have other than family, and though weve had 6 new babys in the last 2 years Its petrifying i might mess up in some way. (I do not do classes, I have somewhat of a.. we'll say 'selfconcious issue' becasue my age (15) dont get me wrong tho Im excited for my baby and anyone who has a anything discouraging can kiss my *. I think its more me being insecure about myself having a baby being so young and clueless.) but if anyone has any words of advice, tips or encouragement

I ran out of room :( lol

i would be very appreciative

Answer 1

you will be jsut fine and so will your baby. Just the fact that you are so nervous tells me you will do just fine. You are going to be very protective of that baby and thats just what they need. Also, congrats and i am proud of you for keeping your baby that is a very mature decision. And jsut remember it may be hard but, it is worth it.

Answer 2

I think it's completely understandable to be insecure about having a baby and I think almost every mom probaby has been. I know that I was when I was pregnant with my son. And I had babysat for over 10 years and have 2 younger brothers. But the more time you have with your baby the more confident you become with them and their needs/wants. Don't get discouraged. You'll do fine. There are plenty of books that you could also get that might help alievate some of those insecurities. I got What to Expect When your Expecting - The First Year. It's good! Gives you a lot of what to expect at doctor's visits and milestones ...stuff like that! Good Luck!

Answer 3

Don't put yourself down like that, you will be a better mother than you think, look, you aren't even ready to deliver your child and you are researching how to become a better single parent!

I was the baby of the family and so was my husband; there were no babies in our family and I can assure you I felt the same way and I had my first child at 28. Age does not equal wisdom when it comes to mothering. I can assure you that once you hold your child and cuddleher, the mother bonding will become and I'm not kidding, it's like riding a bike- you just sit on the bike and start peddling. God made women the responsiblity to carry on mankind and that was not just a coincidence. We are better equipped for stressful situations and have the patience and virtue to do what is right---the baby IS AN EXTENTION OF YOU, and when you FEEL that, I promise you it will be as if you are just taking care of yourself, just follow your instincts and always count on your pediatrican to help at ANY HOUR of the day if you need answers. If you plan to breastfeed- and it is an awesome bonding experience I would recommend it to everyone even if it is for just the first 6 months, while you are in the hospital, there will be a nurse or teacher who will come in and help assist you.

To help with financial and other issues; before the baby comes you should talk to the government agencies in your area to see what they can set up for you financially and if you want to complete your schooling- like a GED. God bless both of you and enjoy your littler darling- believe me, she will be the most important part of your life from the moment of her birth!

Answer 4

Relax. Go get some good books if you haven't already. The "what to expect when you're expecting" and follow up books on "what to expect with your baby" or something similar will help alot. You won't drop your baby. But do use common sence and don't put her somewhere she could fall or roll off of. It is very common so be careful. You think your 4 week old can't roll over yet and fall off and then you learn the hard way that she just learned
how now and fell off. Consider nursing too, it's very inexpensive (free) always ready, always the right temperature, no supplies needed, no waiting for the formula to warm up in the middle of the night with a crying baby. Just let her latch on and go back to sleep. Easy. Good luck.

Answer 5

I think you should read as much as you can about mothering and caring for a new baby, also the process of birth. The more you know the better prepared you are.

Dr. Spock's book is great for new moms. There are lots of good books and magazines that will help you.

You need to tell yourself your are strong and everything will be okay. Talk to the baby in your tummy and it will learn to respond to your voice.

When the baby comes if you can nurse it and give it breast milk for several months that would be ideal. It will also help you figure to get back to normal because nursing helps the figure.

It's all about the future for you and your baby. You are the authority over the baby - no one else. Do not let any man take authority over you or the child - keep the child close and give it lots of love. Never let anyone abuse the child or suffer any abuse yourself. Try to keep in school. If people see you trying then they will help you.

God bless you and baby.

Answer 6

You will do fine! I felt the same way. And it's not just because you are young, older mothers also feel the same way, just because they are just as new to everything as you are! I was surprised, because once you have your baby, you aren't as scared about it as you thought. Like the "breaking them" thing, the first time I changed my new baby's shirt in the hospital, it was a lot easier and a lot less scary than I had imagined! You obviously have to be careful, but that "i'm afraid I'm gonna break her" feeling was gone! So don't worry, you'll do fine. You'll learn a lot through experience, and from that you will gain some confidence! Congrats and I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 7

I hadn't been around newborns that much until my son was born. I used to be scared of the newborns, because of the same reasons. After my son was born I got used to holding my son. As long as you remember to hold there necks you should be fine. I don't think that the formula companys still do this, but Similac used to have videos out for how to take care of a newborn baby. The hospital really helped us learn about how to take care of the baby's basic needs. Congrats on the little boundle of joy.

Answer 8

The first thing my father-in-law told me was "Babies bounce." Now, before anyone gets upset, no he did not mean when you drop them. Babies are adaptable. They recover from things quickly-I had my baby almost 8 weeks ago. He was early and had to stay in the neonatal ICU for 9 days. He wasn't held as much as he would have been at home and he wasn't allowed to breast feed, but when he got home he took right to both those things. Family has been in and out of our house and he has just gone with the flow. You will have time to figure stuff out. In the beginning there are pretty much only three things you need to worry about when they cry-are they hungry, dirty, or do they just need love/contact? Your age won't affect your ability to care for your baby, only your interest and amount of love will affect it. As long as you love her and want her, you will figure it all out.

Answer 9

babies are a lot more durable than you think, I am not saying go out and drop your baby. you always have to be careful. when it is your own baby, you'll feel a little more comfortable. after a while you will be able to do lots of things in record time while holding that little baby, like vaccuming, washing dishes, folding clothes and eating. you will be just fine. i promise. i know how you feel i was so nervous myself but it is very rewarding and you get over you jitters real quick. good luck to you!!

Answer 10

Do not worry....I think motherhood comes natural to us. I had my son last February. He was my first and I was super nervous. I was afraid I wouldn't wake up at night when he cried and so forth. The funny thing is when he was born I sort of new what to do. I was always a sound sleeper...I would sleep through bad storms, loud noises, you name it there was nothing that could wake me up. But when my son was born I would wake even if he had a little moan in his sleep. You'll know what to do trust me...and CONGRATS