Has this happened to you? My girl/ex-girl friend is one of the nicest person i've ever dated, but at the same time she has a nasty temper! Over the course of two yrs. she and I had major arguments, MOSTLY because of her temper! Last argument happend two days ago. She had started an argument because as I was on the phone with her one of my class mates said hello to me and that's it! She got upset and created this verbal storm. To make a long story short, she started using profanity. I told her to stop talking that way and she said, and I quote, "don't tell me to stop F u c king cursing, i'll fu cking curse whenever i fu cking want to! At that point i had hung up. I always told her that she needed to work on her temper in order for me to consider proposing to her being that its been 2yrs already. She's been seeking counseling for this issue. She has attempted suicide in the past because of a previous relationship. should i swallow my pride and call or just finally forget her?
2006-11-01 15:37:31 · 22 answers · asked by johnblaze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you think that I should talk with her therapist even though i'm not involved in the session? I want to marry her but I can't deal with her temper....I might loose it and do something to her I might regret!!
2006-11-01 15:39:02 · update #1
Hey John!
She should be no more your girl friend or something like that.
However, she needs proper mental, physical and psychalogical treatment, it should be continued to recover her.
2006-11-02 03:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with her only if you truly believe that you love her and that she can get over her anger.
I hate to admit it but sometimes I pms. Maybe she's doing that too and doesn't realize it until it's too late.
It takes 2 to tangle. So you must be arguing back. Don't. Instead of telling her to stop cursing, which she expects, do something different. Tell her you love her. That's she's beautiful. That you love it when she does the little things for you. Tell her how much you want to kiss her. And then do it.
The poor girl is lost in emotions when she's upset, so don't follow her by being upset youself. Help lead her back into happiness. I know you can do it!
2006-11-01 23:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by tofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs some serious help and you can not give it to her. And a lady should not talk like that it really sounds terrible. She has some major issues certainly. And as far as the therapist, he/she is not going to discuss her with you unless she signs a release of information. There are laws against breaking confidentially. This is really crazy, if you love her then just deal with it, however, it could be years before she gains control of her self. Is this really the women you want to marry and be the mother of your children. God bless.
2006-11-01 23:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you consider marrying her make sure she gets the counseling.It will only be worse for you if you marry her and think the situation will go away.I think it's nice your trying to go to the counseling with her but it is her issue to resolve.If she doesn't shape up or change her temper tantrums you should postpone your wedding until she actually changes for the better!
2006-11-01 23:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Bel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Let her seek the help she needs and make sure she actually gets it. If shes insistant that she doesnt need any, then you can forget her.
You cant talk with her therapist because her sessions are confidential. You could, however, suggest that you be included in one of the sessions.
2006-11-01 23:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her again. Let her have a little time to cool down and try picking up where you left off If the therapist is doing any good at all, she will get over it someday, and if you love her enough to want to marry her, than things will work themselves out.
2006-11-01 23:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by Darkwraith83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am also a short-tempered person. but i never curse AT my boyfriend. i may curse at the problem, at the world but never at my boyfriend. i often advise him that whenever our tempers are rising, he should walk away and put distance between us first, to let me cool down and let sanity come back into our minds and words...
counselling might help but it wont resolve the problem if your gf does not make extra effort and discipline to rein her temper...
let me put it this way, i love my boyfriend so much that whenever im about to snap, i do my damndest best to restrain myself from blurting words i might just regret an hour later.
if your gf really loves you... well.. i guess you know what im about to say next
2006-11-01 23:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by gailtsr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your foul mouthed girl-friend needs a attitude adjustment, if she thinks she can do what ever she likes then she is only asking for trouble, tell her you don't approve of the foul language or the bad attitude if she is not willing to change drop her like a Bad Habit.
2006-11-01 23:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by dheck03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her and want to be with her try and get involved with her counseling let her know whats up and that you want to try and help her out .and the best way to do that is together than buy going to her counseling with her maybe youll understand why shes acting the way she is and help her out.
2006-11-01 23:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by camarozsonia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this does not seem like a happy relationship. You need to run out of there. She needs help. And your last comment, you might do something to her, should tell you something else. GET OUT!
2006-11-02 00:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good to hear that she has sought help. There is nothing wrong with sticking it out and seeing if counseling is working for her. Only you will know when it is time to go.
2006-11-01 23:44:31 · answer #11 · answered by Sundar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋