I feel as if people want to take advantage of me. They treat me like a punching bag as in someone they can say or do whatever they want to me because they think I won't do anything. When I actually do something I end up getting too angry and things get worse. I usually try to ignore it because I thought that would send the message "I don't care." Apparently, it doesn't. Maybe I've got the wrong demeanor?
Another issue is that sometimes authority figures at school think I'm about to do wrong when I'm really not. It's really annoying. For example, this teacher on a power trip assumed I was leaving the library without a pass when I was really walking across the room to look at magazines. I could go on and on with the nonsense they do. It's like they're bored and WANT to get someone in trouble, for any stupid reason.
What about those people who laugh at me? My voice is a little weird so everyone thinks I'm "slow" or meek. What do I do about them?
2006-11-01 15:34:10 · 8 answers · asked by themuse411 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thanks everyone. I've had great advice from all of you so far. As a matter of fact I can't even decide the best answer. Wow, Yahoo answers works better than I thought :-)
2006-11-02 14:03:38 · update #1
assert yourself (so cliche i know) people used to walk all over me and i let them. now they are too scared of me to do it cuz i let them know that im not taking anymore of it. i told them leave me the (insert inappropriate word here) alone and then they did. and one person didnt, they got a busted lip. you hav to act like you own the world any you dont care about anyone and then you'll seem like you do and people might start to leave you alone.
2006-11-01 15:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not alone this one. I had the same exact problem. Here's what I did when someone started teasing me or making fun of me I either told them what I thought about them which was not pretty at timea to see becuase I have anger issues or I got up in their face and showed no fear. Of course I do not recommend that for all problems. Does not work sometimes. Look all I know is the more you ignore the more their going to shove it at you becuase your taking it. So I would think about that for a little bit.
2006-11-01 15:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kayla [(Adam)] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen guys like you and I apologize for all the rude and insensitive people out there. It's like they sense your insecurity and pick on you. Hold your head up high. Speak up, don't be shy. Don't get angry, that's what they want. Maybe dress differently. Stand tall. Give the presence that you are a positive person. Mix with friends. Make friends. Come out of your shell and be heard. You can be defensive to a point, but not belligerent. Just smile at the people that laugh at you, it will freak them out. Don't be so hard on yourself. You will be okay.
2006-11-01 15:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its alot of the way you are looking at them. I mean you think they are focused alot on you. But like that game called telephone. They could be looking at things different. Or when you know this is about to happen, instead of being up tight and mad. Just smile and say something like I wouldn't want to allow you to be right now would I? Just laugh in polite manor even if you feel different. But when you are polite and not predictable it makes them think also. Just don't be a jerk. People maybe laughing at you and think that your slow. Well then the joke is really on them isn't it??? Ha Ha And if they are just evil then I look at it as if they are picking on me then they are leaving someone else alone!
2006-11-01 15:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by panseypusher 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to take a good look at yourself, at your body language and the expression on your face. And if you've been wrongly accused, take a step back, count to ten and then very nicely tell them that you would like an apology. You need to be more assertive in a good way, so they know that they can't do that anymore. For other students, ignore them. They will give up eventually when they know it doesn't bother you anymore.
2006-11-01 15:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I went to high school my older brother had made a lot of enemies but he had left to go into the navy at 15, so when i got there all these boys were mean to me. the very first day there, in my brand new school uniform, 3 x year 10 boys picked me up and put me in a large rubbish bin and tipped chocolate milk over me and spat on me........ I got my bike thrown off a building and kids filled up my schoolbag (containing all my new books) with water. someone even set my locker on fire......... but when I got a year older those same boys started asking me on dates and I said "no"......... the tides will turn
2006-11-01 15:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by genieejj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ignore them darlin,dont let them effect in ur self confidence...u know ppl thinks the oppsite about me,in college everyone is afraide if they mess about with me,or even push me by accident in the crowded places,if one of my classmates asks my teacher to go to bathroom my teacher would say no but if i ask she would say sure...i dont know why they treat me like this,i guess some people thinks i like it but i dont like it,i just wanna be treated like others
p.s i look so normal and i never hitted or shouted at someone in college
2006-11-01 16:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the old saying walk tall and carry a big stick.
2006-11-01 20:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋