I am 18 and she is 16. (yea i know thats another issue) But she just found out that she is pregnant from me and she is scared to tell her father. (her step-mom doesnt really count as her parent) But this has happened to her before. She thought she was pregant once before (not with me) and her father found out and he was extremely mad. The way she explains it is as if he nearly killed her. Now she really is pregnant and is terrified. She actually wants an abortion cuz obviously 16 is too young for a baby. But I would rather her have the baby cuz i dont believe in it but if it would make her happy then go for it. So im just tryin to figure out a way that she can tell her father and when will it be the right time to tell him. She is one month pregnant. I live in florida. I just wanna know what are the laws for abortion here and for her being a minor. She will b 17 when the baby is born if she decides to have it.But I feel really bad 4 wat she is gonna have 2 go thru wen she has 2 tell him
2006-11-01 15:26:04 · 16 answers · asked by Mr.*LUii$* jR. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
When I was 18 I had a 17 year old girl friend. I was scared to death but I went and faced her grandparents who had custody and legal guardianship over her.
If you do this, make darn sure you don't even remotely look or sound smug about it. Admit to your stupidity and state you are standing responsible. If you don't love the girl - you deserve a major butt kicking, and your girlfriend should have learned her lesson the first time around.
The grandfather grabbed his double barrel 12 gage shotgun, and fumbled trying to load the gun - he was going to blow my keester from here to eternity. Actually I think his words were, "I'm gunna send you to hell..."
And you know what? He should have! I mean, though I thought I did not do any wrong - on hindsight - i was MAJOR wrong, and should have had better control over what resides behind my zipper.
Long story made short - I got away with my life..., and eventually the grandparents settled down just enough to talk with me. I broke a sacred trust, and I did not expect them to trust me ever again, even so I tried never to break that trust after that. Too little too late. If you lose your honor for lust, you lose.
I don't think you'll be shot at - but don't expect anything less than being yelled at and threatened. And don't blame the Dad. The Dad and Mother are generally protective of their daughters. YOU will be the same way when you have children, and if not - you deserve a double butt kicking.
You know what causes pregnancy - and NOW you see all of too late the first stages of a major complication to Her life and yours. be a man and face your responsibility.
If you dont get charged with statutory rape - count your lucky stars and thank God Almighty. They can - so you better talk nice to her Mom and Dad and even kiss butt if you have too.
2006-11-01 15:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow u r in deep s***, u were suppose to be the adult and use protection. Also while u r looking at laws look at the law of statutory rape consented or not by a sixteen yr. old minor. Her dad can and should go after ur a** for being so stupid and not taking precautions. I think u r more afraid for ur self and that's why u came to this forum for help. "That other issue" is what got u here. U at this age showed immaturity and so did she being her 2nd time around with this same sort of situation. Her dad ought to "kill" her (not seriously) but she does need the fear of God put into her as well as u do too. Abortion seems to be the easy way out for all u youngsters these days. Either way her father is going to find out sooner or later why don't u pull ur pants up and get some cojones where they belong and be a man about it. Go to her father and tell him what u plan to do about this. He may be more decent and understandable than she says.
2006-11-01 15:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a few years older and I just got through telling my mom about 4 months ago that I was pregnant. You would be better off sitting down together and telling him asap. But if you dont want her to have an abortion then wait till she is past 3 months then they wont let her have one. Her father will be mad like my mom was cause I am not with the father of the baby anymore. But maybe if you tell him that you plan to help take care of her and the baby and be there then he wont be so mad. I know my mom was for the first month, but now she is okay with it cause I am showing to her that I am ready for the responsiblity and planning a life for the baby. Hope this all helps ya out.
2006-11-01 15:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by spoiledmogurl04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very touchy situation. You should have your girlfriend find some parenting forums and hopefully she will realize what a gift the baby is. I had one 15 weeks ago and it is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I realize they young age she is which will make it even harder, but the baby didn't ask to be created..it just happened. As for telling her father..he may get very angry especially if this has happened before. But realize she just needs to get to the delivery day and that little baby will mean the world to her father..it's going to be a long tough road and whatever you both choose I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope you get to find the joy in your daughter/son.
2006-11-01 15:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzyfoot1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that she will have to tell him reguardless , if she has an abortion or not, because she is a minor and you can not have an abortion with out consent. SO if fear of telling her dad she is pregnant is why she wants to have an abortion, she would have to tell him anyway. She can still have the baby and give it up for adoption. There are so many couples who are looking to adopt. I'm 100% against abortion. so If she doesn't want the baby because she is so young I would urge her to look into adoption. Good Luck
2006-11-01 15:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one if you knew that if she became pregnant that her father would almost kill her then you both should have been more responsible and prevent it from happening. She could sit him down and ask him not be mad but she has made the first mistake in her life and she loves him but.....and then she breaks the news but if I were you and you stand beside her through this you should be a man and stand beside her when she tells him so you can take the heat you know since it took both of you to make this little life in her tummy.
2006-11-01 15:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Chandra H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a tough one. Regardless, I think she needs parents' permission for an abortion as a minor. However I hope and pray that her father will be supportive of this -- she's having his grandchild, being a minor or not. Like you, I'm against abortion. Is there someone like a pastor you can talk to with her?
2006-11-01 15:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Chris H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is true that her father will probably be very upset. I think it would be best for you and your girlfriend to tell her father and work from there. I think her father will come to his senses and realize his daughter is going to have his grandchild and will support her through this. And if you choose not to keep the child, it will be hanging over your head the rest of your life with both of you wondering how life would have been or how your child would have looked and as each year passes you'd still have that child in your mind calculating how old he/she would have been. You should definitely think this one through. Good luck!
2006-11-01 17:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are the man here so you need to be there with her. Even if her dad levels you when he finds out. If her dad is going to go all crazy about it, he needs to be more understanding. Please do not let her have an abortion because she is scared of what her father will do....this baby belongs to the both of you not to him, so don't let him effect that decision. Make sure you are ready to afford a place for the both of you. If her dad kicks her out you need to be there for her.
Best of Luck
2006-11-01 16:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by tiffany m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly want to have this baby be a man and tell him with her. if you are concerned for your safety or hers take another adult with you. Tell your parents first. If they can be a calm supportive force to help you with this situation all the better. Show your gf and her father that you are in this for the long haul and do whatever you can to support her whatever her decision.
in my own opinion no child should be aborted. there are willing parents trying to adopt everywhere. but that is just my own opinion.
2006-11-01 15:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by jbenishmlt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋