I'm currently in a relationship with someone I have been living with for a year now and we want to get married but in the same light we don't want to make bad decisions. My relationship with my son is stable and the ex is cool with the idea of me getting re-married. I've been getting mixed advice from different sources. So now it's up to you yahoo, tell me what to do!
2006-11-01 15:10:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you son is 18 years old, he will grow up to be his own man and go off to live his own life. I do not suggest rushing to marriage, but I think that there is nothing wrong with getting married again. He will get over it (that's if it even an issue for him in the first place).
I think the problems come into play when people forget about or don't pay attention to the child that they fathered in previous relationship. As you as you stay apart of his life, he will probably be fine in the end.
2006-11-01 15:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by hrmom02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do have experience with this due to the fact that I had to repeat the second grade for the same reason. I have dyslexia which means my brain is geared differently than most peoples.I have difficulties know right from left. I was fortunate to have a grandmother with a BA who retired from teaching the 2nd grade and spent a whole summer 3 months total tutoring me.Then I learned how to read.It was not the school that taught me. You have to sound out the words and think what does the e make the a say.Like you see in dictionary's with the bar above the word. He needs PATIENTS and more time than the school can give.It's not the schools fault it's uncle sams. Try your local community college and ask about a summer program to help with one on one reading.
2016-05-23 10:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost follow your heart. they say you never know someone until you live with them and you have been doing that for a year now. does she get along with your son. do you two plan to have children together?but if you are worried about making a bad decision maybe the time isn't right yet only you and the woman in your life know the answer
2006-11-01 15:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by sharon r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a different opinion on this but Mine is very Strong. I dont think that any man could love my daughter like his own no matter what he says. I know I could not love a child as much as I love my own. That is a love you can only give to your child. I wont live with or marry any man until my daughter is grown.
2006-11-01 15:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's awesome that you're taking the time to consider how this will affect your son.
The only concern I would have is if you were to have more children with the new wife. I think it would be very hard on your boy to see you have new kids who get to have you around every day, while he only gets to visit you and be an "outsider" of sorts to your new family.
Good luck, whatever you decide
2006-11-01 15:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by I saw whatudid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one.
Your decision needs to be entirely based on what's in the best interest of your child. But, based on the fact that you've already been living with this person for a year, then you have a better idea on the impact that it will have on your child.
2006-11-01 15:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get married until your son is 18. He needs your undivided attention for the next 12 years. He does not need to have his dad get remarried and have other children.
2006-11-01 15:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r not sure and obviously u r not because u asking people for advice, then maybe u should wait. u r the one who has to feel it inside that he is the one, and that this is what u wanna do....spend the rest of ur life with him, not just a part of it- the whole life. think about and u make a decission ...\
good luck
2006-11-01 15:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get married for the right reasons and you really love your current partner I would say go for it!!! If it feels right to you and she makes you happy then that's all that matters. Good luck and I wish you much happiness.
2006-11-01 15:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Examine why it might be a "bad decision." Those words caught my attention. Nothing wrong with premarital counseling from a counselor that you both trust. :) I tend to go with this: if you have doubts, then don't. Good luck in any event.
2006-11-01 17:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋