i cought my husband of only 2 years cheating on me....we have been trying to have a baby for that intire time and i just found out im pregnant..........im so lost what do i do????
2006-11-01 15:05:46 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER remeber that. and think of your baby not all babys need a father mothers are really all they need anyways i didnt have a dad growing up and i turned out alright. okay think about this picture your self in a hospital bed giveing birth and him being late and comeing in with some woman saying they are friends and it turn out she was the other woman. happend to my mom. men are pig's
2006-11-01 15:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your husband of two years has cheated on you. It sucks that he does not respect you. I'm a sweet lovable guy and still can't get a date. I think you should leave him because down the line, if he does indeed cheat on you again and you have your baby, it will create more stress for you and your baby. And you don't want to argue or fight with your husband in front of your child. Just make sure he pays child support.
There are plenty of men out there that you can find that will respect not only you, but your baby as well. Wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-01 15:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by Pool Player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have aserious talk with him and find out if this was a one time thing and if he is truly sorry. Only stay in this marriage if this is what you want. Dont do it for the baby or him only you if you are not happy it will affect your pregnacy in a negative way. This is a decesion that you have to deal with so take your time. Give yourself time to be angry and cry because this is a very hurtful thing to go through with someone that you love and being pregnant only makes you more hurt because this is a child that you wanted to have and raise with him
2006-11-01 15:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many options.... contrary to what the first responder said, not ALL men are dogs. If we were, this world would have more Lesbians in it.
Second, this is a tough one, as you are now pregnant. If you believe in Abortion, then more options are open to you.
If you can forgive him, then that is another option. But most people will tell you, once a cheater, always a cheater. And I do believe that myself. It will most likely happen again.
If you decide to keep the baby, and still leave him, then get child support as well as alimony to help you out in the tough times ahead.
Good luck.
2006-11-01 15:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you. I am so sick to death reading question after question about people cheating on their spouses. It's disgraceful.
You've been married for just 2 years-----and he's cheating. I'm sorry, but he's a louse as far as I'm concerned. Your situation, being pregnant with a philandering husband is a lousy situation to be in. That's a call your going to have to make. If you think you can go it alone, if you have the resources to raise your baby alone, and family to help you, I'd say ditch his a**. Good luck to you.
2006-11-01 15:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, if you take him back make him work his *** off trying to get you back. What a dog to cheat on you when you were trying to conceive and now put you thru this **** when your pregnant. You are strong and you can find someone else better. Look at the whole picture, do you think he will be a good father and role model. Follow your heart and do whats right for you.
2006-11-01 15:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by mistiful2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him help you through the pregnancy. If you must have sex, which will actually help with your childbirth, 1) USE A CONDOM 2) DO NOT HAVE ORAL SEX WITH HIM,
and most importantly, plan to leave him after the baby is born. Get your own little apartment set up so when the baby is born, you can go your own way and he can keep screwing around and acting like a little punk because he's used to getting his way all of the time. You DONT need that, you will need peace and rest. I gave my kids' father 2 chances, (2 kids) I figure a complete disaster will happenen if there is a 3rd time. :-)Dont put up with it because it's Fooled me once shame on you, fooled me twice, shame on me".
2006-11-01 15:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by fan_wan :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience --- you can get through this if the marriage is worth working out.
Confront him and tell him the two of you must go to marriage counseling. It does work!
Congratss on being pregnant. That alone will bring the two of you closer.
My motto..... u can forgive but never forget!
Good luck, and once again Congrat on the baby.
2006-11-01 15:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is awful! But as hard as it sounds talk to him about it and see what his opinion is, and why he did it, how he thinks now. If he was trying to get you pregnant chances are he feels like a total fool now. People make mistakes. My friends man cheated on her with one of her friends while she was 9 months pregnant. How awful is that? But she forgave him and they are very happy now. Marriage is a tuff thing and you shouldn't give up that easy. I would at least fight to make things work. Maybe counseling. You need to think about what you really want and go from there. Good luck to you!
2006-11-01 15:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question is can you forgive him? Then, will he be a good daddy? Will he be a good provider?? These are important things to consider. If you keep the child make sure these things are for sure. You baby doesn't deserve a crazy life. Good luck to you and I'm sorry men are dogs.
2006-11-01 15:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by DHWJulie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋