Two weeks ago my wife stayed out all night with a group of people from work. It was a a big event, so I knew she would be home late. Well she did not get home until 5:30AM. I called her at that time to see where she was, and gave me a lame excuse of car trouble. she also told me she did not call to wake me up. Was pretty upset but got offer it after her apolgy. Well yesterday I found a emails were she has been seeing this guy(a client) and parting with him.. The emails consisit of open fliting. and also wanting to just talk about personal things. I have found out though the emails that she was witht that guy the night she was out late, and he and her use to be a item, ans she really liked him. I have asked her about him, ans she denis any intrest in him. So what am I to do. All have been doing is proving my love to her. She has no ide I know things.
2006-11-01 15:04:47 · 33 answers · asked by cooltallguy2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You already know the answer to your question. Of course she is cheating. If someone does not come home all night and then you find emails from a man she used to have a relationship with. You already know the answer. don't expect her to admit to it, she already lied by cheating on you. now it is up to you to either shut up and deal with it, or get out and find someone who has the same ideas of what a marriage or a relationship is really about. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-01 15:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so as the former otherwoman here is my sincere advice - you said these emails you found consist of open flirting - well how far did things go in the emails? Anything she does that she would not do in front of you is considered cheating, including flirting emails. Emotional cheating can be worse than physical cheating, just ask Jennifer Aniston (brad pitt, angelina Jolie). I am sorry, but if my car broke down I would be flipping out and calling my man to come get me or fix it - not giving some lame excuse of not wanting to wake you!!!! I woke my man at midnight to come change two flat tires. And its usually a bad sign when your significant other starts going out without you anyway, especially to party. I would sit her down for a sincere talk. Tell her you love her and you are very worried about your relationship because you found these emails and I would show her them. Tell her you want to trust her and believe in her but your really need to have a good explanation for what is being said in these emails. If the explanation she gives you is not good enough you basically have two choices - you can ask her to go to relationship counseling with you, or you can serve her with divorce papers. Good Luck - you actually seem like one of the nice guys!!!! :)
2006-11-01 16:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by theotherwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best approach and may save you a lot of agony in wondering. Just tell your wife you know about the emails and want the truth.
You deserve at least to be told where you stand. At the same time be prepared to possibly hear an answer you don't like. Praying beforehand will help.
2006-11-01 15:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on my husband (worse mistake of my life) This is the way I acted. I even stayed out all night with a crowd from work. The man I was cheating on him with went too. Although I did not have car trouble I did deny deny deny until things bit me in the *** and things came out. Good Luck!
2006-11-01 15:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't read other people's e-mail. Just keep being nice to her and the guilt should break her and either she will end it or fess up, IF there is anything going on. Depending on her age, she may just be having a fun time. In your 20s you still have some oats to sow. In your 30s I would suspect an affair more so than just partying.
Good Luck!!
2006-11-01 15:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by miss_fred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that you know things. Put her on the spot. Staying out to 5.30am on a special event is nothing to worry about. Flirtatious emails are nothing if that is all they are.
You can't keep her just by proving your love for her. You need her to come clean and then decide together where to go from here.
2006-11-01 15:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real way to find out whether or not she is cheating is to confront her. Pretty much sounds like she is cheating on you. Even if it's not in a physical way, she is cheating emotionally. This is your heart on the line here. Ask her to be honest with you, because if she is cheating it's just wasting both of your time.
2006-11-01 15:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by laranita82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she repeat the vows: to love , respect and Honor ? She needs to be made aware that you are not approved of her behavior and that you are aware and disheartened.
Work it out wisely, do not lose your cool and take caution as you unleash your disapproval, be sure not to get violent and make false accusation.. gather the evidence with care and caution...some women are sly and slick.. good luck.. if she is trash , maybe she dint deserve you and would most likely grow old alone..
2006-11-01 15:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just sit her down and say, someone called me today, and they wouldn't give me their name and the number what blocked, but they told me you are having an affair with so and so. I bet she will either totally freak out and deny it, or fess up. Be convincing though. Don't slip up. You need to go over what you are going to do in your mind until it is totally fail proof. Good Luck. Let us know what happens.
2006-11-01 15:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U could do two things: Go to counseling together to work on your marriage or save the emails and find yourself a good divorce lawyer.
2006-11-01 15:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋