Two of my friends don't like each other. Anytime i go around one of them the other won't talk to me and both want me to focus my attention on them so lately i've been trying to avoid seeing them both at the same time and have been talking to my other friends to try to avoid them and I only talk to one in my homeroom and the other when i'm leaving lunch and going to my next class. Now my question is... Should i continue what i've been doing;should i try to find a way to get them to be friends; or should I just stop being friends with both of them? (if you have any other options for me feel free to tell me) and if you can't help....... thanks anyways.
2006-11-01 15:02:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ive had this problem and the animosity was mostly from one friend in particular- I told her she cant make me choose and she felt like I abandoned her so we lost touch as friends and I remained friends with the other, now years have passed and funny enough WE are all friends , and she finally realized she was wrong.
Stick to your instincts and do what ever feels right for you. Are they of importance to you? If they are then you should be honest and tell them both how they are making you feel.
2006-11-01 15:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by Uma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends both need to understand that there are special things about both of them that makes you enjoy hanging out with them. They also both have there faults. You apparently are willing to see the good side and share your friendship on different levels with each of them.
I have a similar situation. Although my friends are a little older, they each have very valid dislikes of each other. Personally, I see the faults but love them both anyway, It is after all their lives and they have themselves to face. They don't need my judgement. Why should you have to give up either friend? If one won't be friends with you when you hang out with the other, it sounds to me like their friendship is based on selfishness. Do you really need that? Continue hanging with all your friends. The ones who really are your friends will continue to be.
2006-11-01 16:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that putting you in the middle is proving more that they are bad girlfriends(or which ever) and if they care about you and anyone else they will be grown-up about the situation, put it behind them and make room for better times and things to happen. Ask them if they know how much time and energy they are wasting holding grudges against each other? If they can't move on, you should.AND FAST!!!!
2006-11-01 15:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by fan_wan :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a plan by telling the friend to meet you at one place and the other friend at the same place. And tell them to make up if they still want to be friends with you. Otherwise I have no other opinions.
2006-11-01 15:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to help them. Slowly. This will take time. Be more caring.
2006-11-01 15:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋