What type of test do you put your man through before you give him your love?

Question

"You have been weighted, you have been measured and you have been found wanting."

Nice quote huh?

Anyways, Ladies, what type of test do you put your man through before you finally fall deep in love with him? What must he do, prove to you that he is the kind of man you want. I know he must TRUSTABLE and honorable, but besides the two, what else? What type of test do you give before he has found wanted?

Please writhe in general terms such as: Kind, Honest, ect... and how is the test given?

Answer 1

Only the test of time. Everything is sort of a small test in the beginning of getting to know someone, just observing how they talk and act, how they react to different situations, what kind of patterns develop in your communication & interaction. I do have a 'list' of my basic must-have criteria - kind, smart, thoughtful, creative, funny, common interests and similar values and worldview. And I also think that in the "very" beginning you're not always getting the truest version of a person, we all kind of put forth our "Representative" or the best version of ourselves. The more you get to know a person over time, the more you learn if they are truly the person they seem to be. You have to be honest yourself, and trust that they are also being honest but keep your BS-detector on alert just in case! As soon as I start catching inconsistency between what they say and what they do, I begin to lose that trust.

I do not believe in setting up a contrived situation to "test" someone, as that automatically assumes there is something you don't trust if you feel the need to "test" them.

Answer 2

First of all I would NEVER refer to any man I was seeing no matter HOW involved as "My Man" That implies ownership. No matter how involved the relationship neither person owns the other. Secondly I don't "do" tests. If he doesn't strike me as one I might want to be with in the beginning I don't pursue the relationship. THAT is called leading someone on, I don't do that. What you are talking about is playing the games that immature people play.

Answer 3

If he's not honest he's out... That's my biggest thing... Even with little things... He has to be there for me, even on my crazy days. Ok "testing him" seems a little over the edge but I guess at first that is what you do to know if he's a keeper... I look for lies, I see weather he is a "fair-weather friend" who is just going to hide when the s*it hits the fan. I see how he treats friends, how he's past realtionships have ended, how he is with kids, what he does in stressful situations... you know just "observe"

Answer 4

Here is the ultimate test....send him out with his guy friends for the evening. when he comes home tell him to take off his shorts. When he does throw them, (the shorts) at the ceiling, if they stick he flunks the test, need I say more?

Answer 5

I do not play games, I pay attention and I am very observant. actions speak much louder than words. God bless

Answer 6

You do not test anyone. You trust them, and if they break the trust then move on.

Answer 7

I put him thru

JERK PROOF TEST & IDIOT PROOF TEST

Answer 8

time...