I dont know what to do, I am non orgasmic with a high sex drive.?

Question

This is a problem I really need to correct I want to be able to experience an orgasm from intercorse not clitoral stimulation. I love having sex I try to do it as often as possible with my boyfriend but I have never really seemed to have a orgasm I think I have but I dont know. I want to try new things but If i mention them to him he gets really shy but if we are in the act and hes excited he loves it...........I want to orgasm!

Answer 1

by chance are you on any sort of medications, such as anti depresents or anything else of that nature? heart meds? those can often affect peoples abilty to orgasim properly or normally. also some people never have internal orgasims from intercourse only... its a really high % of women that are wired that way. so try what works and learn what works through trial.

Answer 2

With expirience i can say, i understand your situation. I was one of them. I could only have an orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

The secret to it, is foreplay or roleplay which is pretty much the same. Play around, cuddle, touch him, let him touch you. Be as intimate. Suprisingly, many people expirience an orgasm through more emotional and physical intimacy. Instead of sex being sex, make it a new word in the dictionary. Make it something new.

I would also like to emphazise that your clitoris is what allows you to even wxpirience an orgasm without it you wouldnt feel a thing. Your clitoris, is what gets sensitive and helps lubricate the vagina. So pretty much, the point of roleplaying and foreplaying is stimulating the clitoris in order for the woman to have an orgasm or multi orgasm.

Answer 3

Like Sen said, it is quite common for woman not to have an intercorse orgasm. In fact, I read somewhere that the percentage is much higher in woman who can only have it via clitoral stimulation. I'm the same as you & Sen..you're not alone.

Answer 4

Try using a clitoral stimulator while riding your boyfriend. You can "train" your body to have an orgasm that way. Also, try a lot of foreplay--oral on you, oral on him--and try out new an interesting ways to stimulate your body.

Answer 5

Unfortunately some women can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation .I'm one of them.

Answer 6

Give one to yourself!!! You need to be in the right state of mind when having sex or masturbating. Clear your head and let go. Do what feels good and run with it. But if you have ever had one, you will know. You should feel the muscles jerking and contracting, of course some extra moisture and your heart rate should increase. Toys are fun too. If he can't do it for you, the silver bullet can!!!

Answer 7

well sometimes it is just hitting the right spot, if he goes in from behind ya and ur bent over or whatever ur preference. your clit can get stimulated that way?! Or try some other positions or maybe ur not turned on enough try having him tie u up or something or try toys too. HAVE FUN!!!

Answer 8

IF YOUR NOT HAVING AN ORGASM WITH INTERCOURSE THEN IT MIGHT BE TIME TO HELP YOURSELF IN THIS WAY.....
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How do women masturbate? Most women orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris. Many others can only orgasm from vaginal penetration or G-Spot stimulation. Remember, there is no wrong or right way to masturbate, everyone is different and we all respond differently.

First, Relax as much as you can. Ensure your privacy; lock your door, turn off the phone, make sure you are alone. Find a comfortable position. Most women start out lying on their backs, legs bent and spread apart, with feet on the bed or floor. Remove some or all of your clothing; whatever feels right for you.

2. Explore your body. Run your hands along all parts of your body, lingering along areas that are more responsive to touch than others. Many women have very sensitive nipples and can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone. Look at your genitals in a mirror if that is “your thing” -- if you feel shy about that -- that’s okay too. Caress the different parts to see what feels extra good to you. You'll know it when you find it. Touch your inner and outer labia, your clitoris, your vagina and your perineum. See “Your Vagina”, if you are new to this and to your anatomy.

3. Touch. Using one or two fingers, rhythmically stroke the different parts of your vulva, paying particular attention to your clitoris and labia. Use your fingers to pull your vulva apart and gently open your vagina. Experiment with different types of pressure, speed and motion. Try placing a finger on either side of the clitoris and stroking up and down, or placing two fingers on the clitoral hood and rubbing in a circular motion. Place a finger in your vagina and experiment from there.

4. Experiment. Try different types of touch: stroke, knead, pinch, or lightly pull your genitals and nipples. Try using one or several fingers, or the palm of your hand. You'll find out what you prefer.

5. Fantasize. Recall an exciting previous sexual encounter or focus on that guy you have a crush on. If you need some extra help, look at a sexy magazine, think about your dream-date or read an erotic story. Allow your mind to wander.

6. Build up. Learn to hold onto sexual excitement by building up and then reducing or temporarily stopping the stimulation. Pay attention to how your body is responding. It will tell you the particular stroke that feels best and when to pick up or slow down the tempo.

7. Breathing. Breathing is important to excitement. Breathe deeply rather than hold your breath. This helps release the sexual energy, rather than fight it. Rock your pelvis as you would during intercourse. Rhythmically clench and release your PC muscle (inserting a vibrator can help too). See kegel exercises for more on PC muscle work.

8. Going over the edge. If your hand gets tired, give yourself a rest, switch hands, or try a vibrator. If you're on the brink of orgasm, but can't quite get there, try altering your breathing, or focusing on a really hot fantasy. Give yourself extra stimulation: caress your nipples, or try also thrusting your other fingers or a dildo in and out of your vagina. (But, don't overdo it either).

9. Ride the wave and enjoy. As you begin to orgasm, continue the stimulation lightly through the orgasm, or stop if it feels like it's too intense. Lighten up on the stimulation during the first extremely sensitive moments but keep it going to enjoy those little pleasurable aftershocks. Your first orgasm may feel like a blip or a blast, but the more you practice, the more variety you will experience.

10. Don't worry. If you don't orgasm on your first try. Keep practicing, or try some of the variations below. Practice the breathing technique making sure you are breathing from your belly, but don't pass out.

Practice, practice, practice. With a bit of time you will orgasm! If you are get sore, give yourself some time to heal.

LUBRICATION! - Wet, Astroglide or any that are sold in most drugstore chains. I think Wet® makes great products. (in assorted flavors). See lubricants for more

1. Vibrators take some of the manual labor out of masturbation by providing direct, intense physical stimulation to the clitoris.


2. Water seems to help some women learn to masturbate. Lie back with legs spread in the bathtub and use a shower hose to direct the stream of water at your clitoris. Vary the pressure, and the pulsation. Be careful with water that is too warm! Alternate methods: slide your butt over the drain so your legs are up in the air and your genitals are up under the tub faucet (rather awkward but doable), or use Jacuzzi jets if you have them. (Of course, someone is bound to wonder why you are in there so long). Remember, this method may not stimulate you. Don't give up!


3. Rub against something. A body pillow, a small pillow, the corner of some furniture, a dildo.


4. Dildos can be a pleasurable accompaniment to clitoral masturbation, as they offer the fullness of penetration and can also stimulate the G-Spot.

YOU CAN TALK IT OVER WITH YOUR PARTNER...AND IF THE PERSON IS TOO SHY TO TALK...YOU COULD ALWAYS BRING IT TO YOUR BED AND START USING IT AND LET THE PERSON CATCH YOU DOING SO...IT MIGHT BE INTERESTING TO SEE THEIR REACTION.

Answer 9

You could find good advices to get orgasm on the site :
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Answer 10

you need to use some sort of dildo to practice on yourself and try to find your g-spot, and have a g-spot orgasm. once you can do that and know where/how to hit it, you'll have a better idea where to guide your mans penis to get you off