2006-11-01 14:34:05 · 17 answers · asked by Brian_26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He does have a steady job,and he Is in love...very much so.Hes a virgin and they are both spirituall people.Hes very mature in my mind, yes.
2006-11-01 14:42:53 · update #1
No, I think that depending on how long they've known each other, and wether they really love each other or not, it's perfectly ok.
2006-11-01 14:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by chiefsensimilla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, too young. Not to say that they don't love each other or that it can never work out BUT 18 is not a magic number that makes people adults. Life experiences, challenges, growing as a person in your own right and many other things lead to the maturity that allows you to know yourself well enough to make a lifelong commitment to another person. There are pleny of people over 30 who aren't ready yet either! Why be in such a hurry?
I spent 4 years with my first husband, 1 of them living together, and thought I knew all I needed to marry. What I didn't know was me. So at 20, I married him. 10 years and 2 kids later we were divorced but I knew me then, knew what worked in my life and what it would take to have a successful marriage for me. That answer is not the same for everyone but you should know what it is in order to have the best chance of success. We were children marrying each other and it turned out that had we known more about ourselves we would not have made that choice.
On a side note, I think you said they were virgins. I'm not for sleeping around in any way but I've told my girls to wait until the right man, the one they feel they want to share their life with comes along, but have sex before marriage. Why? Because if 2 people can't get along in the bedroom at least one of them is bound to be very unhappy. Marriage isn't all about sex certainly but it certainly can break one!
2006-11-02 00:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by SueBru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is only a number. Maturity and real love are the real questions.
It depends on how mature THEY are, how long they have been together, do they understand marriage is a give a take partnership? Hopefully they also understand marriage is real not something they see in movies, or read about in books. Marriage like everything else has it's up and downs ---- and they are gonna have to work real hard during those down times.
My answer is yes it can work... I have been with my hubby since I was 17 years old, had a baby at 19 - never broke up, not even once, and we are still together today :)
Good luck to your young friend. :)
2006-11-01 23:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A male 19 year old virgin has already shown great commitment. He may very well be ready to settle down for the rest of his life. My first thought was most definately too young, but after reading your additional comments I think maybe he isn't. My parents married young and it worked. I married at 30 and am hanging by a thread. So, who knows??? Maybe a lenthy engagement would be an option?
2006-11-01 22:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by miss_fred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think he's too young. Just hope that they don't have kids right away. They need to date more and have fun before taking on a huge commitment like that. The mature thing to do, would be to get engaged, and get married in 2-3 years
2006-11-01 23:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by lavendergrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has very good qualities about him and hopefully so does the woman he loves.
One thing to consider, love can still exist without the rush to marry. If people are confident in their love for one another, it's not just going to fly out the door.
It's really up to the couples and their maturity and compatibility levels. Normally, I would say wait til late 20's but I guess for everyone it's different. No matter what age people marry, there are always challenges. Communication, trust and respect are vital.
2006-11-02 01:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little too young. He's still a kid, really. However, it all depends on the person. Some folks get married at 18 and it lasts for years. Best to let him learn from life, perhaps if it doesn't work.
2006-11-01 23:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say without really knowing the couple who are getting married, they may be a happy couple who stay together forever....or doomed to get a divorce....it depends. My personal opinion is yes it is to young to get married. I was married at 19 years old and was moving my stuff out on our second year anniversary and divorced at 21.
2006-11-01 22:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by wintersimjp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that's too young to get married. However, it happens and I know couples who got married in their teens 30 and 40 years ago. They are probably exceptions though.
2006-11-01 22:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by mediocritis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend is ready to get married at 19 thats great .
I got married at 19 and here it is almost 10years later and i'am still happy with my husband he was 26 when i married him and i was like Kevin will take good care of me and he has we finished college beside it eachother my husband was in medical school when we were married. so dont worry
2006-11-01 22:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by KIMBERLY S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's not the typical 19 year old, then yes, he's way too young.
2006-11-01 22:37:40 · answer #11 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋