how would you feel and react if your fiance told you she was going to see her daughter in another state?

Question

she tells you she is going to visit a couple days. you ask where she was going to stay and she tells you with her daughter ,who lives with her father your fiances x who is single

Answer 1

UM I WOULD WONDER WHY THE DAUGHTER DOES NOT LIVE WITH HER MOTHER... AND I WOULD TELL HER YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH HER GOING ALONE BUT IF SHE PREFERRED YOU COULD GO WITH HER!!!

Answer 2

I would have jealousy feelings about it, that's only normal. You can't be expected not to have them. I would have a talk with her and ask her why she can't just get a motel room close by her daughter. If she decides she can't because of finances or whatever then it's up to you to extend your trust in the situation. I would get her views on her feelings towards her ex (they aren't ex's for nothing) and explain your indifference to her.
I have a son who lives with his father and I decided to go visit him for a couple of days (turned into a week) - I wanted to spend all my time with him, even if my single ex was there. I slept on the couch. Don't let your mind portray images of something that is not or re-evaluate your relationship. Trust is everything. Offer to pay for the motel if nothing else. Or invite the daughter to your state. There's ways around it. But whatever you do, do not try to make her choose between her daughter and her relationship with you. As a matter of fact, don't even bring that up, she'll hold it against you even if she says she doesn't. Talk to her.

Answer 3

I guess it depends on how old her daughter is and how long it's been since your fiance and the ex have been together. If you don't like the idea of her staying with the ex than maybe you should offer to go with her because you "want to get to know the daughter that you will someday be the step-dad to". If you are that insecure with her being with her ex in order to be with her daughter- than you shouldn't be marrying her. You need to trust her- I know it's hard- I've been there. Good luck!

Answer 4

She has every right to go see her daughter who lives with her father in another state. So I'd be happy she was taking a few days to do so. If you don't then maybe she shouldn't be your fiance.

Answer 5

on the same time as i replaced into 14, very final summer time time, I flew to and from China on my own. No help in any relish. i bypass to China returned this summer time time. So, if a 14 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous can fly a million/2-way worldwide properly, then i think of of your 17 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous can.

Answer 6

i would be happy, and have a few days to myself to relax. i would also give her some cash to rent out a hotel room if money is an issue. remember, she's your fiance, and you have to trust her. don't give her a hard time because she wants to visit her daughter.

Answer 7

This is the problem with messing around with divorced people and entering into their broken home scenario. Most of the time, it's not good to butt in. Can't you find someone without any baggage?

Answer 8

She wants to see her daughter. You have to put the jealousy aside. Even if she stays in her ex's home doesn't mean they have to be sexual.

You need to discuss it with her if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Answer 9

I would feel pretty crappy and I would sit down and have a long conversation with her especially if she never told you about this before.

Answer 10

if youre that worried about it, then just go with her.....but then again there is tha trust issue.....you cant marry with out trusting completely
good luck