Recently I had my friend confess to me that she usually BLOWS when she can't take anymore of her brothers not listening to helping her around the house and every little thing that they do (that would annoy her during that meltdown) she'd pinch them and slap them. Whatever she might have on hand she'd want to hit them with it. She had a sort-of violent childhood when she would make a mistake she would be spanked by her parents. She's afraid that she might be becoming like her parents. She's aware that she does this things only after hitting them. She knows its wrong but she can't stop herself coz if she does she doesn't know how to let her anger steam out. Does she have a mental problem and how do you help her? I'm really concerned.
2006-11-01 14:04:54 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Her brothers are 4 and 8.
2006-11-01 15:58:00 · update #1
She doesn't have a mental problem.
However she should probably get some professional help, as people who were abused as children are more likely to become abusers when they get older. It seems backwards, but it's true.
Seeing a therapist and talking about how she felt when she was hit, and talking about how she feels when she hits others, and talking about alternatives could be helpful to her.
Of course some people feel nervous talking about these problems, but if she's already told you, then it seems like she wants to get help.
P.S. if she's still in school, then there is probably a councilor that she can go see for free, but unless she wants to get Children and Family Services involved, she might want to leave out the part about her parents spanking her, and just discuss how she wants to stop hitting her siblings
2006-11-01 14:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by dstoneamaphone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she doesn't have a mental problem. Maybe she's just so stressed. Maybe she should discuss these problems with her parents. The parents in this case should be the ones to discipline her younger brothers and assign household chores to each member of the family.
This responsibility seems to be overwhelming for her. By pinching and slapping her brothers won't solve the problem. Tell her I'm sure you don't want to let history repeats itself. That is , her parents levying corporal punishment on her. There are other ways of venting your frustrations and anger and hitting somebody isn't the positive way. Anger begets anger. Abuse begets abuse. The more educated and mature a person is, the more tolerant she should become. Maybe her brothers are too young to understand responsibilities and cooperating to share those responsibilities.
2006-11-01 22:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by rosieC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by "mental problem," you mean psychological disorder, no, I don't think she has a mental problem.
I think she has issues with anger management. She could probably benefit from taking a class on anger management to learn better ways to cope with anger. Personal counseling is an option if she's open to it, but the anger management classes should help her a lot.
2006-11-01 22:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by fourwhirledpeas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's mental that's for sure. A shrink is definitely what
she needs.
2006-11-01 22:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by CAPTAIN BEAR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋