Swallow it?

Question

Has this happened to you? My girl/ex-girl friend is one of the nicest person i've ever dated, but at the same time she has a nasty temper! Over the course of two yrs. she and I had major arguments, MOSTLY because of her temper! Last argument happend two days ago. She had started an argument because as I was on the phone with her one of my class mates said hello to me and that's it! She got upset and created this verbal storm. To make a long story short, she started using profanity. I told her to stop talking that way and she said, and I quote, "don't tell me to stop F u c king cursing, i'll fu cking curse whenever i fu cking want to! At that point i had hung up. I always told her that she needed to work on her temper in order for me to consider proposing to her being that its been 2yrs already. She's been seeking counseling for this issue. She has attempted suicide in the past because of a previous relationship. should i swallow my pride and call or just finally forget her?

in response.. do you think that its possible to speak with her therapist even though i'm not involved in the session?

Is this a sign of borderline personality disorder?

Answer 1

Sorry but you're going to have to decide this one for yourself. You will have to weigh up your feelings for her and whether she is worth the effort to help.

Unfortunately a lot of people resort to using profanity in arguments because it makes them feel powerful. When she does that, I would just speak quietly with her or refuse to fight with her. When she has calmed down, then you can talk to her about the problem and the language.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You have to decide if she is worth it to you. If she is trying to work on her temper, she also has to understand that even in counseling treating you this was is unacceptable. Let her know you will help her and support her emotional needs but she also has to do the same. Maybe you can sit in on some of her sessions with her. After all, if this is the woman you may be spending the rest of your life with, I think you should be included in the picture. Lots of luck to you both

Answer 3

Man she obviously Loves you otherwise she wouldnt even care enough too get mad. But do you Love her enough too stand by her side and help her get the help she needs and give her support thru this hardship ??? Love is not about being there only when things are good, love is about being there when things are bad as well. If she has attempted suicide then she is reaching out and begging for your help. Will you give it too her ? Yes I know its hard too deal with a person with a bad temper like this, believe me I know. But she has addressed the fact that she has a problem, help her. Stand by the person who loves you thru thick and thin no matter what.

Answer 4

only if you want your diginty intact. Men aren't the only ones that are physically abusive to a spouse. This is your cue to run as fast as you can and find someone who doesn't play all these games and is secure in who she is. This isn't love. Trust me and take it from someone who has been where you are...15 yrs later and 3 kids, now strong enough to say enough. Don't waste half of your life wishing you had a wife who respected you.

Go find a lady who is deserving of your love and respect. It's her loss, not yours. Love doesn't hurt.

Answer 5

Hate to say this but I think you need to move on....She sounds a bit loony and that doesn't make for a healthy relationship. Leave her to work on her problems and you find a healthy relationship with someone else

Answer 6

If she is seeking counseling, then hang out and see if she approves if she doesn't then move on. Is this someone you wan to take home to you mother? Or being the mother to your kids?

Answer 7

... ... ... ... Da**!

Well, you're obviously involved with a psycho. Better stay away. Get another woman that's straight in the head.

Answer 8

forget her