How do you feel when you see a parent telling their child harshly to shut up and yell at them?

Question

I have had horrible experiences like that and it hurts when I see a parent doing that to their own child

Answer 1

Honestly, and this might sound mean, but 9 times out of 10 the child needs to treated this way for misbehaving. Kids need to understand that they need to behave in public.

Answer 2

I think appropriate action should be taken if a child is misbehaving or being disrespectful in public. I'd never agree with beating a child or anything like that, but a spanking on the butt could be used if done in a proper circumstance. Kids should learn to be respectful and behave themselves in public. I don't think telling your child to "shut up" is good, I just don't like the words, but telling them to "Be Quiet" is more appropriate, in my honest opinion. It depends on the words you use. I know kids will be kids, but there is a line that you must draw as a parent to make your children be more respectful. Yelling at them and degrading them doesn't help the situation, but spanking them on the tush and making a point to them is good enough, and also it's a good idea if a parent has a punishment in place for such behavior, like being grounded and having something taken away from you or something.

Answer 3

It depends upon WHY the parent is doing this. If the child deserves to be scolded then I am behind the parent 150%!!! BTW: The kid had to DO SOMETHING wrong to get such a reaction from the parent.

Too many parents are too chicken, dumb or lazy to BE parents and scold their kids. That's why we have all the problems with youngsters shooting up schools and all the other troubles kids get into simply because they didn't have proper guidance growing up.

Answer 4

i think more parents should do it....i have children and i brought them up to respect there elders...i know alot of kids who are too god damn cheeky for there own good,but dont worry i will wait until they turn 16 then ill give them a good kicking.....i believe in smacking children only if they are really bad but i don't mean with a belt or anything,it never done me any harm when i was growing up and i respect my parents unlike some children today..

Bejesas i sound like a old person ...i am only 32

Answer 5

I think parents need to make sure the child is listening to them, but yelling, telling them to shut up, and being mean isn't the way. It doesn't take long for a kid to learn how to ignore all of that. You are better off getting their respect when they are little and keeping it. I hate when parents are so mean to their kids, it makes me want to hit the parent.

Answer 6

I feel like they are putting there child in there place. Children don't react well to kind words all the time. Most of the time if a parent hollering its because the child has disrespected and/or disobeyed their parents' wishes.

Answer 7

Whatever embarrasment the child's behavior was, the parent carrying on and drawing attention from everyone else around is even worse. The parent is supposed to know better.

My initial feeling is to want to smack the s--- out of the parent, something I obviously cannot do.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

What else can they do? With the idiotic methods of how to discipline a child today where you can't take a hand over it's a** and go to jail if you do they have no other choice left but to scream and that sure doesn't solve a damn thing.

Answer 10

I wouldn't judge a parent because you see him/her screaming at their child on the street. I am a parent now, and I have had many conversations with my mother about parenting. I was lucky, growing up I had two wonderful parents. I don't remember them ever screaming at me. I told my mom this and she laughed. She said that at one point or another my child will drive me crazy and I will scream at him. That happened to her quite a few times with me. I don't even remember that!!! But she said we are all human, we all "loose it" at one point or another for brief periods of time ;o)

Answer 11

It is a hard one to call....I don't think that a mother should say shut up to a child. Ever.

There are times in life when what you believe in and what you do are two different things though. I know a few friends of mine who are great parents other thatn the fact they talk harshly to their kids. I know they love the kids and would do anything for them but it is really stressful at times to have a bunch of kids that are out of control.

Is it my friends fault that her kids are the way they are....yes. Will they ever get better if she keeps treating them the way she does no...and it is sad.

She hates to see kids mistreated....yet she does it. And she feels guilty and gets depressed when she treats her kids bad.... and then does it more because of her state of mind. A vicious circle.

I am goo dto my son. I try to talk to him...but I yell. I don't call him mean names and tell him to shut up....but I yell...NO...DON"T FLIP THAT LIGHT AGAIN....DO YOU WANT A TIME OUT??....I think you have to yell sometimes to get a child to pay attention.

It is a hard world to raise kids in. It seems like tons of kids have mental issues....ADD, ADHD, Bipolar, OCD, Depression, and more....and it is hard to raise these kids up right because of the stresses of the world.

Most Moms love their kids more than anything....they need help.....maybe we should not judge them but make programs to help them get better so that they can be better parents!

Have a great day and God Bless!