For a few years now my friend who has divorced parents has been continuously mentally/emotionally abuised by her mom.Recently her mom has made up reasons for her not to communicate or see any of her friends outside of school. She rarely allows her to do anything, and my personal view is that because she doesnt feel like trying to make a new life for herself (like getting a boyfriend) she wants her kids to be with her as much as she can make them, basically INSANELY SELFISH. My friend wants to move in with my mom and i and we are more than willing to have her.But she has a dad who she could live with, but he lives an hour away and is willing to put up with her mom in order to stay in our school district to be with me and our other friend (were VERY close). We live in New York, is there any way she could live with me at least during the week to go to school?
2006-11-01 12:52:02 · 11 answers · asked by Kashay Bo Bashy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh gosh. That is such a sweet sentiment given by your Mom and you. This is unfortunate occurence. You will have to ask her Mom if she wants to let her go. I don't think she will receiving your kind gesture warmly. Let me tell you what you can do. You can call Social Services and make a complaint. Tell them what you know and they will have to be the ones making the decisions regarding the Mother's parenting abilities. Then if Dad does not have room for her, she will be moved to another family member unless nobody has room, you will not be able to let her simply move in. You have to get permission and a lot of legal issues need to be addressed first. But start the ball rolling and call Social Services. They are located in the phone book under Govt. or you can just call 411 with the city you are in and ask for the nearest locations phone number. It sounds like this would be worth the 1.50 to call. But, remember, anything you accuse the Mother of doing can come back and hit your friend in the head. The mom sounds like she might get mad at your friend for talking about her and making accusations. People like her might not realize she is doing this abusive stuff to the extent she actually is. And as always, it is your word your friends word against the mother. I hope this helps. Let me know what happens
2006-11-01 13:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by ricci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? No, most likely not. If the "abuse" is emotional abuse you can't do anything about it. Physical abuse is the only kind that can be proven, otherwise most courts will just see her as another teenager acting out and complaining that her mommy is just too hard to get along with so PLEEEASE let her move it with her friends. Anyone you go to will probably see her homelife as good that her mother doesn't let her go anywhere since she's just fifteen. I was considering attempting this when I was 14 myself because I was fighting with my parents a lot and now as a 17 (almost 18) year old I know that the most I probably would have got was taken out of my home (which really isn't all THAT horrible it just felt like it was at the time) and placed in foster care. And a lot of foster homes aren't what they should be. My advice is support your friend but don't interfere with her mother's rights.
2006-11-01 13:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by randompersoness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, maybe you think since they are parents they have a right to talk like that as parents. Turns out many parents are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you responsible- they are tricking you. Hurting people hurt others. It's not you.. They are the ones who have a problem. People/parents do mean things or lie to control. They just want the reaction so they can get high feel good from it. You have to look at the agenda. Abuse is anything and words that are not uplifting. So forget what truth is being used right then. Remember -THEY actually get high on being mean, and thats why they do it, they are wrong about everything. The abuser is close-minded and self-righteous. So the parent becomes abusive and the abuse makes children sick with so called mental Illnesses- painful but not a disease - includes all OCD, BP ETC. Psychiatrists commit fraud in that there is zero science in what they do. They do not draw blood to test for imbalances. For chemical imbalances no test exists. There is no conception of what a correct chemical balance would look like to date. People in the FDA agree. I have links for this. Remember, after abuse sickness can be a spiritual problem - Jesus name is needed to banish what is there. God wants you to know truth, forgive, and get away from them. You sure feel better after reading the links. Google- "Inside the Mind of an Abuser" -See how it works and be free... I have many links and will talk with anyone contact me for help. Source--Seeing people healed on a regular basis in a ministry- click my name to talk.
2016-05-23 09:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question to pose to a school counselor. The mother is the legal guardian and basically owns your friend until age 18 unless investigation by a case worker for (I believe in NY) H.E.W. shows her incompetent or abusive. Then custody would go the the father, who might be agreeable to your proposed living arrangement. (If proposed by your mother, not by another youth!!)
2006-11-01 13:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by dallenmarket 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very possible she can live with you and your mom,but first you need to call or visit child and family services and let them know what is happening and let them place you friend with your family.
2006-11-01 12:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she can get a free civil lawyer and free council through the courts system in your local area ,all she has to do is say she is being mentally abused.
2006-11-01 12:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her mom would need to sign some papers allowing her to stay with ya'll or maybe she could talk to her dad and tell him she wants to stay with you and your mom so she doesn't have to change schools.
2006-11-01 12:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but legaly i don´t think that is possible, her legal gurdians are her parents, if her mom is prove to be abusive, she would have to go with her father.
But maybe your mom, can help hers to deal with this problem
2006-11-01 12:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your mom, because your friend could end up hurt. you just have to get your friend to move in before she gets hurt by her mom.
2006-11-01 12:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure she can, if your mom will let her. I'd report whoever is abusing her though, and then see what happens
2006-11-01 12:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by Yvette S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋