In traditional Chinese culture, it's very unethical to cohabit with a man or have sex before marriage. But now more and more young people who leave their hometown and working in big city like Shanghai,Peking, choose cohabitation. But not all of them tell their parents the truth. They know their parents still have old ethnic standard and will be angry with the truth.
Actually parents of the boys don't care so much than girls.
What's that about in your country? Especailly in Europe and USA.
Is cohabitation really very common? Is parents really don't care your daughter cohabit with boy? Is that depand on their age? What if the girl is 20 years old.
I'm 24 years old,and cohabit with my bf for more than a year, but my parents don't know that.
2006-11-01 12:28:38 · 6 answers · asked by dreamoppet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My 24 year old daughter lived with her boy friend for a year. They had been dating for two years when they decided to live together. I am glad they lived together first and did not get married because they broke up last July. Had they married it would have been a bad divorce. She made a bad choice for a boy friend, but at least she got out before it was too late.
2006-11-01 12:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the U.S. it is very common. More cohabitate than marry now. BUT, as I get older (I am 49) I see the wisdom of not cohabitating before marriage. We have an old saying here: Why buy the cow if the milk is for free? What that means is that there is no reason for a man to marry a woman who freely gives the gift of herself without a promise from him. Many younger people will disagree with me...and I must confess I have cohabitated, and I have been married. But the men that I have lived with did not marry me.
I may sound old fashioned, but I think there is some very wise wisdom in your parent's way of thinking.
Just my humble opinion.
2006-11-01 20:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live in the USA and my now husband and I lived together for a short time before we were married. My mom wasnt very pleased but never said anything because I was 24 and financially independent. Other than be disapointed there wasnt much she could do. A lot of couples choose to live together now and I think some of it has to do with the cost of living and the fact that, as a society, our morals have fallen to the sidelines.
2006-11-01 20:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by miss m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've lived with two of my boyfriends and think it's a fabulous idea. You don't REALLY know someone until you've lived with them and living with both of them made me realize how much I really couldn't stand them. >_< Dates are great, occasional overnight cuddles are good but when that person is in your face 24/7 you find out whether or not they're worth it.
Although, to be honest, I had an idea they weren't worth it BEFORE I lived with them....it just got confirmed. My current boyfriend is 16 (I'm 17-graduated at 16-emancipated-owned a house blah blah all that good stuff) and IF we should stay together until he's 18 I'm sure we'd get an apartment together. I don't know anyone where I live that HASN'T lived with a member of the opposite sex (dating or friends) at one point or another.....
2006-11-01 20:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by randompersoness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont like it! but if shes over 18 & on her own......i cant do anything about it....except hate it ....with all my heart.....or bribe the hell out of her ......new car,,clothes..credit card.....anything to keep my princess home with her daddy.....mom would have to take a back seat.........pathetic....yes.....but shes my princess!
2006-11-01 20:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My church is against it, and so am I.
2006-11-01 20:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋