because i don't want to go out to the clubs anymore. i will go every once and a while but not every weekend they are all single. I just don't think a married woman with 3 children should be hanging out like that. I'm tripping or what?
2006-11-01 12:11:05 · 18 answers · asked by smithbooty26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's wrong with you? Staying home with your husband and children instead partying with the single girls. You'd better straighten up, or you're gonna end up happily married for 50 years.
2006-11-01 12:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not tripping. You are a mother now and that is hard work. I am a 35 year old single parent and I have a 12 year old daughter. You are just settled. Besides there is nothing in the club but confusion. Honey, stay at home and cater to your husband and children. Your friends are probably trying to find a husband in the club. Let them call you whatever they want. It's not what they call you, it's what you answer to. Trust me they wish they could be where you are. I don't have a husband and I'm not interested in the club. When you get to be a certain age your mindset changes and your interests are different. They'll probably be acting like this for the rest of their lives. No man wants a club hopper.
2006-11-01 12:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right!!! Your life is very different now compared to your single friends. Youb don't have to lose them as friends, but you also don't need to join them in clubbing.is
Make some new friends who have kids like you do. This doesn't mean that you have turned your back on your old group of firends, it just means that you are grown up with kids and you need to NOT risk your marriage or your stability as a mom doing things that singles do.
You are in a phase of life that is taking you a different direction which is good. We all have stages and phases of life. You are in a wonder phase where you are raising three wonderful kids. It definatly is the most challenging job you will ever have.
Your single friends might not understand until they are married with kids. Besides this is your life, you make decisions that are right for you. You are no longer under peer group pressure.
The boreing Sally things sounds like it is becoming obnoxious. You can choose one of two things to do. #1 just laugh it off & don't take them seriously #2 if it is bugging you it is time to set some boundries with these friends. If they choose to not honor you asking them to stop calling you boring sally, then you will have to distance yourself from them. If they are so immature that they can't honor you as a friend, then they truely arn't friends, they are just people you used to hang out with.
2006-11-01 12:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what are you 'tripping' about exactly? That they call you boring or that they can go out and you, due to your self-made shackles, can't? Look, it's important that you keep your priorities straight and keep up on your responsibilities, but being married and having kids doesn't mean you, or you and your husband, can't go out to clubs from time to time. Infact, I'm suprised either of you stay sane without cutting loose, in some way shape or form, from time to time. As far as them calling you boring; I'm sure they mean it in an affectionate way since they're your friends. They're right too. To them, you lead a boring life. And just the same, even though it'd be kinda' mean for you to tell them, you may think they live unfulfilled lives. Just keep doing what works for you til it stops working just like they do.
2006-11-01 12:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are right. You are in a different frame of mind than your friends. You are a wife and mother now and your friends have not experienced that yet. Don't loose your friendships for this, just sit them down and tell them your responsibilities and your family comes first. You are NOT boring, you sound like a very responsible woman and I give you a lot of credit for that. Others not responsible would leave the kids with a sitter and go out clubbing...... keep it up..your doing everything right...
2006-11-01 12:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by bonbon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a grown up now and you have your priorities straight. Just last saturday night a guy posted a question asking how many people were home on saturday and happy to be. I was one of them. In the end you're children will give you much more enjoyment than your friends ever will.
Maybe time to get new friends.
2006-11-01 12:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Good married women dont hang out with condescending single gal pals. Im surprised you go clubbing at all actually. Find some married gals to hang out with, you'll find more relative things to talk about. Peace. :)
2006-11-01 12:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to them. Soon they too might be going through the same expreince. Sure, you guys are still finding you girl power and indepedece and maybe they were kidding or still wanted you to get up and party. But you have a life and you love your family and don't nudge when they laugh at you, so you can tell them to stop and talk this through with them.
2006-11-01 12:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 32 married with 3 sons i don't go anywhere either.your friends are looking for someone,so they can have what you have,they sound jealous to me.you sound like a devoted mother and wife keep up the good work.i also had kids before all my friends did and our friend ship did change because i had to grow up.i still love them,but my family comes first.they need me more.keep up the good work.its not easy to find a babysitter for 3 kids i know.
2006-11-01 12:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by cool mom32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow ur the same as me. it is hard for some freinds who dont have kids to understand that are views tend to change once having children. it isn't as fun to come home drunk knowing have ur children to tend to and all. it is all about growing up . ur friends will understand when they have children of there own.it is always a good i dea to have friends u have stuff in common with too .including other friends with children they will be more on ur pgae when it comes to partying. we do party but we just dont need it to be as extreme and that is beacuse we take the responsiblity of are children first. it is sad when they dont understand the joy of watching ur shild grow before ur eyes and to them that is boring but hey just as u will tell ur child one day .dont let them get to u ,u know ur a good person and ur doing the right thing.
2006-11-01 12:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋