I am a successful woman with high ambitions, I work extremely hard and juggled more than one job for 5 years through all of my schooling. However, I have a few....unambitious, lazy aquaintences who I grew up with all my life. They sat on the couch while I studied or partied all night while I was best friends with the librarian. I had a friend ask me why I was still friends with "people not on my level." I cringed at the snobbery of walking away from people I knew all my life because they just dont have the same drive that I do but I see the point that they could possibly pull me down or rely on me (financially) excessively. But I still choose to hang around and be an inspiration to others (with some distance)
But out of curiosity how many of you would want to maintain a bond with old friends who were completely undriven, if you were the only one who attempted to do something real with your life.
2006-11-01 11:58:28 · 5 answers · asked by DancinDeeva 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well, you might possibly inspire one of them-but I doubt it. You may have the potential to help one of them, but it can only harm you. You will never grow as long as you are the biggest achiever in the crowd. If you hang out with your level or higher you may always be inspired to do a little better. That's "do" better, not "be" better. Your children will benefit also. They will start life way ahead of where you started. Think of where they might climb to. If your kids hang out with the couch potato kids, then all the hard work you did will waste away on the couch in just one generation. Your grandchildren will be right back where you started, or worse. It is not snobbery to have goals, or to desire to get out of debt, or have a new house-paid for. It is just good sense. How do you think most wealthy people today got that way? Okay, some may have stole it or inherited it, but by far-most worked up to it.
2006-11-01 12:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember you was not always at the level you are now. So give them a chance to climb up the latter like you did and maintain your friendship with them but not to the point it will interfere with job relations or personality to upkeep profile in right standing where you are now.
2006-11-01 12:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with anyone, but try to show them how great your life is now because you tried. For Example: Take them to your house and show them all your nice things. I don't mean show off. I mean show them the positives of trying in life. In a conversation, bring up how great it feels to be a good student. How you love when the boss/ teacher compliments you on your great work. They might see the light. If they don't by June, ditch them. You don't want any influence....
2006-11-01 12:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably not as most people are unworthy of my company. or is it the other way around?
2006-11-01 12:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not on the same level , that's hog wash !
2006-11-01 12:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋