i have been with my partner for 3 years now and we are so in love i fell pregnant about 1 1/2 years a go we were not redy then we were living in a c'park with no jobs and on the doll (no life for a baby?) but now were in our own house both working he has full time im casual mum and dad are only worried bout me not finishing school and not getting a good job i also dont have a car but we will be getting one by next year i cant wait to have a baby i know we will be great parents and i know i love my partner so much am i ready???????
2006-11-01 11:56:54 · 25 answers · asked by BsTAr FoReVeR 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
um you are just a little kid that knows nothing
2006-11-01 12:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
only you and your partner know if you are ready!
my little sis had a baby 2 days after she turned 18 this was 2 1/2 years ago, they never had there own place to start off with neither had jobs and were only together for a month the pregnancy wasnt planned however they are still together, just bought a car and her boyfriend has a full time job.
they are both great parents, i was disappointed when i heard she was pregnant but im an over protective sister.
my mum and dad however were pleased to become grand parents.
they were living in bundaberg at the time but are now at the central coast, i am guessing by your spelling of mum that syour aussie so u know where im talking about!
my point is you two obviously have your head screwed on straight and are looking after your selfs, and having a baby is something you want.
as a mum myself i will tell u times can get very tough at times even at 24 years old. but as long as you two are psoitive its what you want go for it. once your baby is born your parents will love being grandparents.
just try to think ahead and ask your selfs should you wait or are u ready.. you will know!
good luck
2006-11-01 12:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby is a lot of work, it's a very very expensive bundle of love. You really should wait until you two are married and have more supportive jobs. You may think you're ready now, and that may be true emotionally, but you need to think about the baby's welfare. Can you afford the proper "baby care needs"?
A good crib
Good quality formula/baby food
Baby proofing needs
Diapers/wipes
Changing table
Clothing
Toys
Books
Hospital and medical bills
A good apartment and car with functional heating/airconditioning (babies need a certain temp to be comfortable and lower the risk of illness)
You sound like you badly want to be a mother, and you will be a wonderful mother when the time comes, but you need to prepare for a baby and take care of yourself first. Finish school, get a steady job, have a nice wedding. We aren't all so lucky as to find the one we are ready to start a family with by 18. You've been fortunate there. Give yourselves some time to prepare for your baby and allow yourself a bit more time to grow up. You're still in your teens! When the time comes your child will be very loved.
Hope I helped!
2006-11-01 12:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please wait until you can properly care for a baby. They require so much more than you can provide right now. When the time is right and you know that you won't regret not getting to live your life first. Once you have a child you have to provide for them and make them number one, all the things that a teenager doesn't get to do because they are pregnant you might start regreting. You don't want to live your life wishing what if I would have waited until I was older. It's so hard to raise a child(ren) without making sure that you can provide for them not only now but for years from now. It's only fair to them, that you wait. Trust me your parents know what they are talking about. Good luck with everything and seriously think about it first, once it's done, it can't be undone.
2006-11-01 12:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can answer that. dont rush. whats another year when you are looking at doing the job of parenting for the next 20? I think you left home pretty young and might not realise yet that you still have some growing up to do. Thats what happened to me anyway. At 16 I thought I was an adult and could handle anything. At 20, things started to go wrong and I needed my mums help.
2006-11-01 12:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by asiwant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have stability, and you have been together for a long time. Why not? Listen to your heart. You will know when you are ready. But be cautioned, having a baby isnt just dressing it up in cute clothes...Its a real responsibility and its tough. I had my daughter when I was 18 and she is the best thing that has ever happened to my husband and I, but we were ready for her with a house, car, money saved, insurance the whole shabang. Good luck!
P.s. Make sure that you get a car first before you get pregnant, one with air conditioning and a heater that works. Oh and have money saved up also, its very expensive...Pregnancy, the doctor visits, ultrasounds, giving birth, and well-baby checkups.
2006-11-01 12:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by cleverness_444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not, get yourself situated first because this is just pure "spurs of the moment". It will be in the best interest for both you and the baby for you to get a better job and wait a few years to save up for the baby. It is not good to have babies so soon, you should enjoy youth while you still have it, because you will regret no doing things later on in life.
2006-11-01 12:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school, get a job and buy the things you'll need for a baby first. Then have a child. Don't worry, there is tons of time to have a baby, but only a little time to be young and free. Once you have a baby, it is a full-time, lifetime commitment. No need to hurry.
2006-11-01 11:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by xorosho 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In one of your other questions you mentioned how you and your boyfriend fight alot over other guys so maybe you guys need to work out some of the other issues you have before you have a baby if he thinks you like other guys he might turn around and say the child wasn't his or maybe not maybe I'm wrong and hes not that type of guy but maybe you guys should just work on your trust for each other first then a baby ~good luck I hope all works out for you~~~
2006-11-01 12:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you are then have one but frankly you do need to get a vehicle unless you live in walking distance from doctor, and you may not be as ready as you think trust me im 18 and married i had a miscarriage yesterday and i thought i was ready lets say i got a wake up call for that one...good luck on this dear and make sure ur other wants one too
2006-11-01 12:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by mommyof3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a smart person.
Think about it logically.
Kids are EXPENSIVE, you may be getting by OK now, but with the expense of another person and you not working?
I would give it 3-4 years before giving serious consideration.
2006-11-01 12:01:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋